Does anyone else hate being pregnant?

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Disclaimer that I’m happy and grateful to be having this baby but my god, being pregnant is such a SLOG. I’m 33 weeks so objectively it’s not long to go but I also have no idea how I’ll get through these last few. I’m so sick of the heartburn, the endless need to pee, the sore hips, the stretched ligaments, the shortness of breath, the ungainliness, the exhaustion, the endless discomfort and misery of it all.

I’m so bloody grumpy and ready for this to be over 😭

I don't like being pregnant either. I'm so beyond grateful I am. But 36 weeks now. And I am DONE.

Hated it both times and felt quite ill for most of the nine months.

Yep. Was just saying this to DP the other day. We were ttc for 4 years so I am sooo greatful to finally be pregnant. I'm 26 weeks so still a whole 14 weeks to go. God do I feel miserable though. The constant pressure to sleep on your side when your hips are in agony, the anxiety of has the baby moved enough today, the intense back pain after walking for a few hours. We went away for a few days for Christmas markets and by the end of the evening I was crying because my ankles were swollen and back was killing. The other day I was in bed sulking because I'm sick of feeling nauseous. Trying to remember to drink enough and stay hydrated for baby, focusing on eating enough nutrients for baby the list goes on!! I think I may be 1 and done!! I said to DP how people with 10 kids do this that many times is beyond me!! I'm sure he'll be worth every second of the tiredness pain and frustration though🥰

Long time ago but hated it both times, first time sick first and third trimester and fainted several times in the second. Couldn't work after 8 weeks. Felt so ill. Sciatic with both pregnancies, 3 months in hospital with the second but sickness not quite so bad. 1st pregnancy took a year till I felt normal but 2nd ok after a few weeks. There are 8 years between them.

Hated the first time - very grateful to be pregnant after ivf, but couldn't let myself enjoy it as I was scared something would go wrong and I'd not get the baby I so desperately wanted.

Hated the second time - paranoid I'd have another loss like the one before him and felt absolutely grim this time round for pretty much the whole 9 months.

It's ok to not enjoy it, doesn't make you a bad mum or mean you don't want the baby that's coming. It's a lot to put yourself through, esp if it's not an easy pregnancy.

You are my people!

This is my second pregnancy. Hated the first one too, so my only bright line on the horizon is that I’m done after this so at least I never have to be pregnant again! Can’t wait for the stress and discomfort and relentlessness of it to be over.

I hated it too. I felt like I was being drained of life from the inside. Sick all the way through. Then I had to give birth! Unfair 😂

I wasn't too keen on it either, but I did it three times to get my gorgeous boys. The only way I got through pregnancy number three was by telling myself it was the last time I'd ever have to go through this.

On the other hand, giving birth was fine, I even sort of enjoyed it and I loved having a newborn, but pregnancy you can keep. And apart from horrible all day sickness I had textbook easy pregnancies.

Currently 15 weeks and very grateful but at this stage it's mentally a lot. Basically all symptoms have gone away and I feel "normal" but that's just left fear that something is wrong. I don't have movement yet and I don't really have a bump, I just look a bit pudgy so I can't even dress up like a pregnant person, just a person with a thickening stomach. I look awful, feel fine but and worried something is wrong and all that sickness was for nothing. Willing this kid to kick or for the 20w scan to hurry up...

Yep OP, while I maybe wouldn't go as far as hate, I certainly am not enjoying it very much.

We have been ttc for years (this is my first) so this is a very wanted baby but between the anxiety of having another mc to the really bad morning sickness in the first trimester which is still lingering at 21 weeks to the extreme tiredness and exhaustion throughout, it just has not been fun.

I still have a good bit to go as well but feeling baby move around does make things a bit more bearable.

I absolutely did not like it one bit. I’ve always been a bit jealous of the people who “sailed through it” and “love being pregnant”.

Honestly I’m glad my 2nd pregnancy was twins, as though that made it even harder, it meant I got my 3rd child. I don’t think I would have been willing to do it a 3rd time.

Yep, hate it this time and just can’t wait to never be pregnant again. Feel like my body is not my own. Sickness, aches and pains, can’t sleep, hate all my clothes.

my first baby I really enjoyed being pregnant, it was covid and had a long hard road to get there so I found it all really magical and felt really special. Didn’t have many symptoms other than it being annoying trying to sleep at night. But overall I was loving it, loved wearing dresses (it was summer) and we were always worried something would go wrong so I felt so grateful each day.

this time it just feels so long. I can’t wait for baby to be out and have a massive glass of wine and some Brie. I know it’ll be hard once baby is here but I just can’t wait to have my body back to normal and then never do it again!

and yes this is a longed for and wanted baby. It’s just being pregnant is such a sacrifice to get there IMO. I don’t know how some people love being pregnant and having babies all the time!

I’m 34 weeks so on the gone stretch now

I hate it so much. I'm so uncomfortable, so tired, not sleeping, my bladder hates me...and the mental load is a lot (especially post loss). So grateful to be pregnant, but so ready to not be! 34 weeks, likely only 4 weeks to go due to some complications. I will be so relieved once my little one is here! Think we will be one and done as I can't do this again.

Pregnancy is hard. I'm 9 weeks with my second and I've been so sick 😫 I'm struggling to leave the house with nausea , dizziness and fatigue. It was exactly the same the first time, so I knew what I was getting into this time. Its just harder with a 3 year old and if one more person tells me it'll be worth it, then I'll honestly snap. I know it'll be worth it but it's still pretty miserable and a struggle and that's OK too.

Yep....hi..... 👋👋👋

I am extremely grateful for my DD1 and for being currently pregnant with our second DD, but, my God, I literally hate being pregnant.

First pregnancy was during covid. I had teeth and gum issues throughout (tooth removed at 26 ish weeks), appendicitis at 30 weeks, diagnosed with pre-eclampsia at 37 weeks - I looked and felt like a whale.

Currently 22+2 with second baby and have had much worse sickness this time since about 5 weeks, also low BP so have fainted and fallen several times, awful heartburn, constantly knackered and breathless. Early days still and I'm dreading the third trimester as that's when things really got bad for me last time.

Never yet had this elusive 'glow' others talk about...

The end is in sight for you now though OP, you're on the home straight!

Yes, I'm 29 weeks with my second. The nausea and vomiting finally left in the third trimester as usual but now replaced with insomnia and awful heartburn. No awful PGP this time but I do DO have round ligament pain!

It's like pregnancy bingo

I hated it both times, felt awful throughout and just such a slog, like a 9 month illness with revolving symptoms, and that was despite having multiple losses and being expected to be delighted to be successfully pregnant. I was delighted objectively, but still quietly hated the process. Felt amazing post-birth both times, almost instantly “me” again.

Solidarity with you all, and especially sending love to those dealing with the anxiety of pregnancy after a loss ♥️

I'm 27 weeks after 4 miscarriages and even though i am so grateful to be pregnant I absolutely hate it. Where's this glow?? 😭 I've had hyperemsis which only calmed down recently - had 6 weeks off work! I'm peeing every half hour, my sides hurt, and I can't sleep! I can't wait to have baby boy in my arms!!

I hate everything about it and have in every pregnancy.
But I know the outcome is worth it.

Deffo my last time though!

So grateful but also yes, it was awful. I came home from my EMCS 10% of my bodyweight lighter than before I got pregnant. The sickness, the complications, the anxiety. Then birth went to hell too!

I’m sorry to read these messages. I loved being pregnant even tho I was enormous and my husband thought it was very sexy.

@Rocknrollstar my husband does too but it doesn’t change how uncomfortable I feel - last night I was up peeing at midnight, 3am and 5am and barely slept in between. Then up with toddler at 6.30.

can’t wait to feel normal again (albeit much more sleep deprived no doubt)

Yeah, men are weird 🤣
I've never felt less sexy in my entire life