Overdue babies support thread

[TheAlot]

Thought I'd start this as the end of pregnancy is so difficult with all the waiting. And all the kindly meant checking in, and "have you tried a yoga ball?" It's like the 2 week wait but worse because everybody knows.

Maybe there's such a small window between being overdue and babies arriving that "catching" people overdue at the same time is unlikely. But... is anybody else out there to wait with me?

I'm 41 weeks today by my dates, or 41+3 by the 12 week scan.

Not currently in that situation OP but I can relate, both of my kids got me into the induction talk zone as they encroached on two weeks overdue.

I ended up turning off my phone, asking DH to screen my calls and trying just to relax and enjoy the last few days pre baby. You're more than entitled to switch the world off. With DD I did it about a week before she was technically due which means my phone was off for about 3 weeks 😂 I think I just carry them longer!

The midwives recommended an oxytocin evening. Stick a comedy on, ask your partner for a nice massage, have your fave meal/dessert/ chocolate bar (or I was recommended a glass of wine by the NHS), sit on the ball if that's most comfortable, have a warm shower if you like that sort of thing. Whatever floats your boat. It's most likely they came because they were ready but labour started with both mine within 7-12 hours of an evening like that, so perhaps there's something in it!!

Edited to apologise for yet more unsolicited advice 🫣 very much hoping your wait is over soon!!

Bless you, I went to 42 weeks both times and the last 2 weeks were very low points for me, and so incredibly hard. I wanted everyone to go away (in much stronger language), and was angry at my body for not just getting on with the job, and so so uncomfortable as well as impatient to meet my baby.

No advice from me, just one big dose of sympathy. I've been there and I really think it's one of those things people just cannot understand unless they've also been there.

Thank you both for the messages of support. Believe me I've been doing everything everyone says helps and baby's just too comfortable to come out yet!

@OneStepOneStumble I think you're right that people who have never been "overdue" don't understand what it's like at all and it can feel so lonely

Mine were both forcefully evicted at 42+1. Some people just take longer to grow babies! (They were both around 9th centile, so not overcooked 🤣)

Too late for you, but with my second I was much more vague about my due date. I said end of x month rather than mid x month, so didn’t get as much well intended ‘support’ towards the end.

You are probably on maternity leave now. Try and enjoy it! Go see Wicked, have a meal out, take a slow walk, whatever you enjoy. The time just drags if you spend too much time munch pineapple or bouncing on a ball!

@mummymummymummummum funny you should say that as that's exactly what I did - nobody knows the guess date and I said "late November" 🤣 just can't escape.