Unplanned pregnancy - Advice

[Louhills]

Hey
I have found myself pregnant 8 months after having my son - This wasn’t planned, the condom come off and the morning after pill hasn’t worked. I’m feeling really silly, we wanted another but didn’t plan on it being yet as I don’t feel ready.

I’m going to continue but what do I tell others as it’s quite obvious it’s not planned?
I also feel embarrassed how this has happened… for those of you that have fell pregnant unintentionally, how did it happen for you?

Thank you xx

No need to feel embarrassed, these things happen. Congratulations

Don't worry about what other people think! This is your life and your family.

I was with someone for almost 15 years and never planned on having kids. That relationship ended, i got together with someone else then fell pregnant very, very early on in the new relationship (2 months in!). Totally unexpected and unplanned and I felt like a naughty kid telling my parents even though I was in my 30's!

Happy to report it all worked out 😊

Thank you and did you tell people how it happened? Or did you just say it wasn’t planned? I just feel embarrassed how it has happened if that make sense! X

Just say 'it'll be lovely for them to be so close in age' if anyone refers to it. If anyone is so rude as to ask if a pregnancy is planned then you could always ask about their last smear / prostrate exam since you're swapping personal medical info

Nobody needs to know any details, you have nothing to feel embarrassed about

I planned mine with that exact gap. No need to say anything or be embarrassed about it. As I side note, I feel almost every second mom has to say the last wasn't exactly planned and I always wonder why. It's no one's business.

When you tell people act happy. None of their business if it's planned or not. And you don't want people making comments in a couple years asking how you feel about it now in the hearing of your child. I have 13 month gap and made the mistake of telling a friend it was accidental and she asked me about it in my kids hearing when I was in toddler hell with two of them.

I find it helps to think of it this way: you could abort but are choosing not to. Therefore this kid is planned.

I went on to have a few years gap between child 2 and 3. MUCH harder going back to sleepless nights and nappies baby food prep and toddler groups when you have left all that behind. With the 13 month gap it just extended the bay phase a bit. And my second child slept the night before my eldest child he was a dream baby while my eldest had reflux and food allergies. Much of it will depend on the baby you get

Thank you ladies for your advice. Do I tell the doctors I’ve taken the morning after pill? Xx

I would. Just be honest

I’ve just come back from a midwife appointment where I told her I had considered termination. I told her I had no idea I was pregnant and I had drunk and taken no vitamins for the first trimester. She was really nice and understanding

I don’t think you need to quantify it? I chose the fall pregnant when my first was 6 months, it never occurred to me that I had to explain it. Enjoy! Close age gaps are so much fun x