4 + 1 and absolutely terrified

[Claire9019]

Hi everyone.

This is my first time here and I am normally very rational and calm.

Last week we got a positive test. It was maybe a few months earlier than we were expecting but as we are now married and settled we are both very excited about the news!

I have missed my period and for the first couple of days I had very sore breasts. Weirdly this symptom has more or less gone already and I feel entirely normal again.

I’m terrified of miscarriage, I keep thinking this will be a ‘missed’ miscarriage with no bleeding so I won’t even know. Why don’t I feel pregnant and the sore breasts have gone?

I have booked a private early viability scan for 6 + 7 but that is nearly 3 weeks away and I don’t know how to wait that long.

This isn’t like me but I feel so fearful :(

Hi, I’m just over 5 weeks and for a couple of days leading up to my period I had an intermittent bruised feeling in one breast and nothing else. Then for the last 4 days, I haven’t really had any other symptoms apart from nausea. Aside the nausea and waking a few times in the night (probably because of the nausea) I haven’t had any other twinges, aches or breast pain. From what I have read, everyone is different, some unlucky people can start with symptoms early and end up with them throughout and others may not experience any symptoms at all. I think the next 7 - 10 weeks for us both will be filled with anxiety. I wanted to hold off telling my manager for a couple of weeks but had to share the news yesterday as I’m already pre-empting the nausea could get worse in the coming weeks with it starting early. Congratulations by the way.

I found out at 4 weeks and the only symptom I had was sore boobs, that then went and at around 6/7 weeks I suddenly got hit with horrific nausea and tiredness, however I know someone that had no symptoms at all (very envious) I know how difficult this time is but try not to stress too much as that also isn't healthy. Wishing you all the best x

It is a really difficult time, but there is really nothing you can to change the outcome, so excessive worrying really is wasted. I'd try and move your scan to 8 weeks+ if you can. Most miscarriages occur between 6 and 8 weeks so you could get some false reassurance before then. Wishing you well.

The first trimester is so hard as we all know it's the riskiest time in pregnancy and there is nothing at all we can do about it - that's why we all feel so anxious. It's normal, honestly.

What is also totally normal is different symptoms coming and going at different times. In my first pregnancy I had slightly sore boobs for a few days when my period was due but then nothing else until over 7 weeks then BAM! They all hit

Symptoms or lack of them tell you nothing about whether the pregnancy is viable or not. My mum had 4 kids and never had any noticeable symptoms whatsoever. Other women get severe symptoms from day 1 then later find out they've had a missed miscarriage (that's why it's missed, because there was no let to in symptoms). For others they come and go constantly.

The only thing that will tell you if your pregnancy is viable or not is time I'm afraid..... and I would actually recommend having your first scan when you are over 8 weeks as pp said. 6-8 weeks is a high risk time for miscarriage so even if you've seen a heartbeat at 6 ish weeks, it won't offer much reassurance but seeing a healthy heartbeat after 8 weeks means your odds of miscarriage drop significantly.