Older mum's with older children starting over?

[Mum23boys1987]

As an older mum of 37 with a youngest child of 10.
How was life for you having another little one ?
Our life was crazy with them so little close in age and i have always felt I never got to enjoy them.
Will life be manic again or is it more organised etc when the siblings are older?
Do you ever regret having another later in life?

Wanted to reply saying I'm in the same situation as you, youngest is 10.
Due in February. I'm hoping and feeling it's going to be calm, although with my son's football commitments not sure.
But I'm excited now after the initial weeks of scared.

How many weeks are you?

Unfortunately i had a mmc in,October at 10 weeks and we really feel we would love another.guess I'm just looking to make sure im prepared and get peoples advice.
Congrats to yourself how many weeks are you?

Then I wouldn't worry, if it's what you want then go for it. It will all work out 🥰

I'm now 26 weeks, after 2 MMC. One in November last year and Feb this year. I think the MMC made me want another one more.

Awe thank-you nice to hear some positivity. So many people have broke my heart since the mmc with comments like maybe a blessing in disguise why would you want to start again but in 10 short weeks that baby changed our lives my hopes and dreams for the future nothing compares to the happiness children bring to our lives x

Yea ignore them all, if it's what you want, go for it. My 2 older boys are super excited and that's all that matters x

Hi OP,

I have a teen and a toddler due to secondary infertility. I often wonder if things had been different, how I would have coped with a smaller age-gap as the toddler years are wonderful but my god sooo difficult at times. I don't know how people cope.

What I'm saying it that for me, it's really given me the opportunity to enjoy the whole baby/toddler years all over again with much more time and perspective. Possibly because I never thought I would have another baby, but also I think because my eldest is so self-sufficient right now that I'm able to be there when she needs me, while giving my attention to my toddler and being able to take in all the lovely moments that I had when my eldest was that age.

Personally I find it really lovely

What is meant for you won't pass you by, OP.

37 isn't old at all these days (I was 37 when i had my first - conceived naturally, normal pregnancy and she's now a healthy 4 year old).

And 10 years age gap isn't totally unheard of either- I know a few families with similar whether that's down to secondary infertility, an unplanned 'happy accident', new partners having a baby together etc etc. A colleague of mine has a 21 year old, a 10 year old and a 3 year old (oldest has a different dad). They are a close family and the oldest is great with her siblings - my colleague is 43 now but still hasn't ruled out 'one more'

At age 40 had an 18 year old, a 14 year old and fell pregnant with my youngest. It was wonderful and tricky at the same time. My 14 year old was struggling with all the usual teen issues, and a newborn in the house on top of that was exhausting for us all. I thoroughly enjoyed getting to do the baby and toddler years again as I do love that age, but the combination of having a two year old, but also a 16 year old doing GCSEs I remember being hard!

Now I'm 56 with the "baby" doing GCSEs and going through all the teen stress again! I'm very tired! I wouldn't change any of it my kids are a delight, but menopause and a teenager in the house is an interesting combination 😬

My 1st and second children are 13 years apart and 5 year later I had the last at 39 . I would love another one . Lots of people love to have something to say but only you know what’s best for your family . My kids and step kids ( I have a 18 and 23 year old stepkids ) get along amazingly and all cherish their younger sisters . Just because it’s different to the norm doesn’t make it bad . The one thing I loved about having children many years apart is the fact I gave them all so much more attention individually and as a result we have a really close bond with each other and even amongst the kids . Good luck