Struggling

[Shouldhavestucktopets]

I know I should be grateful and people aren't so lucky but I am 24 weeks and have woke up today utterly fed up.
My public area hurts, my skin feels tight, my hips hurt, I am I agony walking the dogs, I feel ugly, fat that tied in with constant headaches I just want it to be over.
I don't want to go out and be seen looking like this.
I resent my husband as nothing in his life hasn't changed (yet) he can go out, drink, eat what he wants and go to the gym.
Honestly don't know how I can cope for another 4 months.
I feel preached at by all my friends telling me what I need to buy and do and how they did this and that and feel so much pressure, I know there advice is coming from a good place but I just want to scream leave me alone.
People say they love being pregnant so I feel like there is something utterly wrong with me as I hate it.
I feel no attachment to what's growing inside me. I don't want any harm to come to them but I feel nothing.
Don't know what answers I expect from this but praying this feeling improves.

Bless you, it sounds like you're having a really tough time emotionally. Have you reached out to your maternity services for mental health support? As it sounds like you're suffering from perinatal depression, and you would benefit from professional support in dealing with it. I can't help but note your username too, which further adds to my concern there. Not to say that your feelings aren't valid; your body and life are going through major upheavals, and everyone responds differently! But the extent to which you're feeling so low suggests to me that those hormones are affecting the way you're feeling and viewing yourself. I would really advise you give your midwife a call and see if they can refer you for support with your wellbeing.

I've mentioned if a few times and the midwife just giggles and shruggs it off. So made me feel like it's normal and it will pass. Which I hope it does soon. I think the pain and lack of sleep is taking its toll as well.

I’ve had insane bloating. It’s miserable.

@Shouldhavestucktopets that sounds very dismissive of your midwife. It's normal to not feel constantly elated about pregnancy or to feel occasionally fed up. But what you're describing doesn't sound like standard low mood. I had to go through a full mental health survey at my booking appointment last week, and even though I was very insistent that my mood is fine, she still gave me a huge spiel about mental health support, and gave me a leaflet with helplines, just in case.

If you feel unsupported by your midwife, maybe give a helpline a call just so you can get some of what you're feeling off your chest? Tommy's run a service 9-5 during the week - 08000147800. Do you have any friends you can offload to?