I feel like no one is happy about my pregnancy

[gonewithtthewind]

I'm pregnant with my second child.
I just thought I'd give a bit of background
With my first child we tried for 3 years, had 6 miscarriages and then got out beautiful rainbow baby.

This time round I got pregnant by complete surprise, no struggling to get pregnant. I had a miscarriage last year (the most traumatic one yet) very much a wanted pregnancy but has come as a complete shock and never thought I'd be in the receiving end of such an easy time getting pregnant.

When I was pregnant with my first child my older sister was pregnant at the same time, she has 4 children already and had her 5th a month before I had my first.

This time round, she has been trying without having much success (has a lot of health issues) she isn't great with the children she has if I'm being honest and said the last was her last.

I didn't announce this pregnancy until quite late and tried to be as sensitive as I could to people who are struggling as I've been there and I know how it feels. I haven't and won't announce on social media, the people I have told I told via text and didn't go to much into it (maybe this is all my fault haha)

But it just feels like there is no joy, it just feels like people can't be happy for me this time round and in turn is sucking all of the joy out of it for me. I haven't spoke about it much at all, I tried to send a message yesterday just about the gender but I didn't say much more and everyone has read it and nobody has replied.

It just feels so disappointing and i honestly have this overwhelming feeling of guilt for being pregnant and other people not being. There is this feeling like I should have waiting for her to be pregnant at the same time again.

I feel like I can't be happy because I'm so worried about upsetting other people by talking about it or trying to be excited or happy about it.

This sounds like it's all I ever mention, but it isn't, I hardly mention it because I don't want to hurt anyone.

I understand if I'm being silly or unreasonable I think I just wanted to rant and have nowhere else to do so

16 weeks isn’t late at all, you’ve answered my post perfectly.

What I said about thinking people who announce pregnancies 35 weeks plus are a bit strange is certainly true. Could this apply to you? No.

You told your parents the gender of your child yesterday and they didn't reply at all despite reading it? That is really really odd.

I do agree with what people are saying about others generally being less interested in second borns, but not replying to your own child about the gender is mental.

Did you put it in a family WhatsApp that your sister is also part of? If so, stop doing that completely and update your parents directly.

OP, your sister has 5 children already.
Enjoy your much wanted pregnancy, savour that baby and STOP CARING WHAT EVERYONE ELAE THINKS.
Also yes, people care less about 2nd + babies except when it’s your own baby.

I can understand number one, two or possibly three but she already has five. I wouldn't be putting her in the same group as those properly struggling to concieve.