Unplanned pregnancy - Advice please

[SarahK456]

Hello.

I’m just feeling anxious and looking for some advice really. I have a son who is 11months and have found myself pregnant.

The condom come off and the morning after pill has failed. We did plan on having another baby but not this soon.
How do you go about telling people when you have an unplanned pregnancy?
Are you honest with the doctor etc. as I’m currently under a specialist so it’s quite obvious it’s not planned?

Sorry, I’m just not sure how to deal with this.

Thank you! X

I'd be honest with the medical professionals if it's relevant to your care. Also to trusted friends and family if you need someone to talk to.

But generally it's not something I'd talk about too much because you don't want it to become commonly known that baby was a whoops for their sake when they're older. My friend has talked about being a slip up for her parents since we were at school together. I think it made her feel a bit sad.

Many congratulations! Your children are going to grow up together and have a very close bond. What a positive! As to having to explain it to people, why should you! I know work etc. might be involved, but work will always be there. Main thing is son number 1 is healthy and happy and you look after yourself for his sibling to come. Good luck, it’s an exciting time and who cares what anybody else thinks. It’s your life and family comes first!

If you are keeping the baby do t tell people it's unplanned except medical professionals. My mother told me I was unplanned. It's hurtful. I have a child who survived failed condom and morning after pill. He's high needs Sen and had ruined my life as I cannot work now I have to care for him. No fucking way would I tell anyone I never wanted him it's so so damaging.

You are pregnant. That's all people need to know. If thy ask then you tell them they are overstepping and it's joy their business m. A baby is a baby no matter how it came to be it's as equal to the planned children as any other child

Be honest with doctors but tell everyone else whatever you like, they don't need to know if you don't want them to. What are you under a specialist for?

Just to add from the perspective of an ‘accident’, or the younger sibling of the initial accident, we were told early on that my sister was an accident and always thought it rather nice and was a bit of a family joke. Never made my sister and I sad.

Just because we were unplanned, it didn’t change how loved we felt and how wanted we were.