For those who are pregnant after a mc

[Rainbowflower2024]

Hi all! I have found out I’m pregnant after 1 mc and 1 mmc all in a year. I’m over the moon but also very anxious. Just wondering how those who have experienced similar cope with the anxiety? Also do you recommend an early scan and if so at what week? Thank you

Hi I had a miscarriage in August and am now 6 and a half weeks.
My epu offers scans after 1 loss and they booked me in for next week when I'll be 7.5 weeks. They said they typically do them at 7-8 weeks so I'd probably use that as a guide for private scans too.

@Superscientist congratulations! Ok I might look at similar. I’m only 5 weeks so very very early. Wishing you a healthy pregnancy! I’m not sure what my epu offers but I have feeling they won’t offer a scan unless I’m bleeding.

It's such a postcode lottery! I was told at my miscarriage that I could get a scan and potentially progesterone too.

My sickness has started earlier this time which is a little reassuring but it's also not as bad which is less reassuring. With my daughter and the miscarriage it was week 7 that the nausea and vomiting really ramped up so I have time. My nausea and vomiting were worse with my miscarriage but the fatigue was worse with my daughter. I'm pretty tired now. It's so hard not to try and compare symptoms! I know from last time they aren't always the best indicator.

First of all congratulations on your pregnancy 🩷!! I had two miscarriages in 2022 one in may and one in July and I fell pregnant with my now 11 month old in March 2023 and I’m 8 months pregnant with my second baby so I understand how you must be feeling 🩷 with both these pregnancies I was offered an early scan because of my past miscarriages my GP put in a referral for me to have them, if your GP can’t refer you you can go to a private scan room which I did aswell for peace of mind and they can give you an early scan without a refferal , I had my earliest scan at 6 and a half weeks in the ep unit. I would 100% recommend going for an early scan not only might it help with your anxiety but it’s the most magical feeling seeing your baby for the first time 🩷🩷I was also on progesterone and elthyroxine during my pregnancy with my 11 month old maybe ask your doctor if it’s a possibility to be prescribed progesterone pessaries. And about the worry I remember I would try to find things that would really occupy my mind for example I love doing art while listening to music so I’m completely distracted or I would watch a series that I really enjoy and can get lost in 🩷 I hope this helps and I wish you all the best 🩷🤰xx

Congratulations! I had the same before having my DD.
I agree with early scan, and extra private scans between the NHS ones. Discuss anxiety with midwife and she may be willing to give you more appointments. And never feel silly or an inconvenience for contacting EPU or triage, that's what they're there for!
May be worth contacting your EPU for an early scan, mine gave me one as said I was really anxious!

I had a MMC (first time pregnant) in July, got to 7/8 weeks and lost about 9/10. I'm 8+3 today so especially nervous! I had a scan at 6+3 to rule out ectopic and they found a little heartbeat. I read somewhere that if they hear a beat that early your chances of miscarrying go to about 10% - so a 90% chance of going full term. I'll take those odds! 🌈

In terms of anxiety: I was very, very anxious last time round, and when the worst happened I had a small epiphany that this was totally out of my control and the other side would be okay (as long as I didn't pass out on the loo).

This time I'm sort of just riding the wave, noticing when I'm anxious, asking myself if my panicking will make any difference at all the fate of the pregnancy (answer usually "no") and then mentally walking away from it - turning on the radio, texting my DH, reading a paragraph of a novel.

I've been through the worst so know what that will be like and the things I'll need to do (oddly comforting to have it there in my skill set - it's the unknown we fear!) and I survived.

I also find it helpful to tell myself that today I'm healthy, the sun is out, I'm fed/warm/dry/bored/nauseous/tired. What will happen will happen, but right now, everything is okay. 😊 It may not stay that way, but I don't have to worry about it right now. I can usually head off an anxiety attack earlier if I remind myself of those small things.

Fingers crossed for you OP, but just take it one day at a time and you'll get there. ❤️❤️

I had a miscarriage in March and got pregnant 2 months later.

Didn't do any extra scans, actually almost ignored the pregnancy pretty much, didn't really tell anyone until 18 weeks. I found it easier than obsessing over something I had no control over.

It's my third baby though so probably bit different to your first. I had loads of extra scans with my first 2 though and everything was fine.

You used to be able to get some good deals on Groupon for private scans, not sure if they still do that.

My local Epu don't do extra scans unless multiple miscarriages or bleeding. They do a urine test to check for blood before offering a scan and they don't let you have any pictures from the early scans. Midwife said they have a lot of women trying it on!

My previous area offered extra scans for anything. So I think it depends on area/ capacity etc.