Wedding at 38 weeks pregnant

[MimiMc]

Hi, I was just looking for advice about a wedding I have coming up next year. It's for one of my close friends however it is 2 weeks before my due date. The wedding is an hour and a half away from home so it would involve travelling. I'm just wondering, could anyone advise if it's a good idea to go? What puts me off is that it's an hour and a half away from my maternity hospital, and I don't know how uncomfortable I'll feel at the time.

I went for a day out 2 hours away with 3 DC in tow when overdue as I had previously gone overdue.

Packed my tens machine & medical notes just in case. My friends and I just considered we'd cope if we had to.

I'd plan to go, 90 minutes isn't exactly far... Plenty of people in rural areas are further than that from their maternity hospital when at home or for a lot of people they/partner will be that distance away at work.

That said it's possible you might not make it - or might have to subtly leave if it all starts kicking off ...

If she needs a definite answer then it's a no. If she is prepared to wait and see how you feel. I was in hospital with a baby at 37 weeks.

My children were both two weeks early so would have been a bad idea.

I went to a wedding at 39 weeks. I'd had an easy pregnancy and just told my friend whose wedding it was I might not make it. I did a fair bit of dancing that night and my son was born two days later! Wedding was only half an hour away we took a taxi and my hospital bag and notes with us in case. DH was careful not to drink too much. It was a lovely day!

Tell your friend you want to come but may need to cancel last minute - will she be ok with that?

I had a terrible pregnancy, could barely walk by 38 weeks. Sitting in a car for 90 minutes would have been excruciating. But I have a friend who did crossfit until 8 months and would have been totally fine.

Personally I wouldn't I was so swollen could barley walk turned out I had preeclampsia and was induced at 38 weeks but even the weeks leading up there's no way I would of went I barley slept and sleep I did get I was basically sitting up in bed just very uncomfortable . I just think you don't know if you will be up to it so I probably wouldn't .

You want the OP to turn up in a full length white lace gown to someone else's wedding?
Ok Spammer, that'll go down a treat I'm sure

If it was me, I wouldn't go but that's only based on my waters going spontaneously at 38 weeks in my last pregnancy. I would be gutted saying no but I would just be too nervous to risk it I think!

I went to a wedding as 36 weeks pregnant, when I was due to deliver at 38 weeks.
All was ok, except I did come back with Covid! For the second time in the pregnancy!

@MimiMc great post! - I have been faced with similar this last month with x2 events.
One which was a freinds wedding (All be it not best freind but regardless I'd feel the same) and a family 40th birthday party. Wedding was 1.5 hrs away and 40th was 3hrs away.
I am coming up to 34 weeks. I did not go to either.
This is my first baby and I felt anxious travelling that far at this time. My last trip was in September to Italy to see my parents and that for me was the point I said after this I want to be at home.
Now I know it's Important to be there for your friend, at the same time your well being physically is highly important as well as your mental wellbeing. If you feel fine physically and all is well but you have doubt and feel the sight bit uncomfortable then DO NOT GO, it's your time being pregnant and friends and family should understand this for you too.
If you have the baby early I would not want to take my newborn to a wedding either but that's just me again and my baby isn't here just yet - not much longer! 🥰🥰🥰

I had backlash from the friend that I didn't go to the wedding - so be it not much of a friend to be shitty with me and not understand. It's my first baby and I am pleased I stuck to my guns nothing has happened but ive felt calm and collected getting my home bits done and thay alone makes me happy and my calmness I am sure my baby gains from too. As for my family 40th we did not go to - no problems whatsoever so they understood and invited us to go stay when we have had the baby and have a little family party when we are ready to go with our baby. 🩷

I would have been fine with this. I went to a work night out over an hour away by train when I was 38 weeks pregnant with DD2, and I really enjoyed it. But I had pretty easy pregnancies, wasn't in pain, etc. We are an hour or so away from the hospital in the first place anyway.

It's just a personal decision, but if you feel okay and want to go then I'd go with it.

Oh and I got relocated to first class by the train conductor at no extra expense when he saw how pregnant I was

Hi OP

when I was pregnant with my second I was maid of honour for best friend, I hosted her hen party at 36 weeks for 12 hens (2 hours drive from my house) and went to her wedding (2 hours drive) the following week! I was 37 weeks and prayed the whole weekend I would last. I did! I had a fabulous time at the hen and the wedding (had back up plans for both) my husband didn’t drink at the wedding so he could drive at any time and he was fully aware to look after me. Baby came at week 38!

I would go ahead if I was you but depends how you feel about risk - just make a realy
good plan I think.

I was maid of honour at 37 weeks pregnant and had baby at week 38 (second baby and expected week 38 labour as first did this). I would definitely go but depends how you feel about it all. I think you’ll be fine but depends how anxious you are