Surprise pregnancy - 2 under 2

[Desperatelyboredhousewife]

Hi everyone,

I have found out I’m unexpectedly pregnant this morning. Only around 4 weeks. I have a 15 month old and we weren’t planning another pregnancy until next year. It took us a long time and fertility treatment to conceive our daughter, so I realise how lucky we are, and she’s our entire world but I haven’t found it easy, my husband and I have tested each other’s patience more in the past 15 months than the 10 years before that! I also had a traumatic birth and have a health condition which I haven’t been monitoring as closely as I should be due to having a toddler. Think I just need a hand hold today, I haven’t even told my husband as he is at work. Has anyone managed 2 under 2 (although admittedly our daughter will be a few weeks away from being 2) or any experience with a second baby after a traumatic birth?

Deep breath, congratulations, it will be fine, having close together (13 months) and a bigger gap each bring its own challenges and rewards, every single person who has a surprise pregnancy has an OMG moment, you are blessed

It's great- you can do age appropriate things which suit both of them. Would recommend a cleaner and a babysitter for date nights so you don't lose sight of each other

Congratulations OP. There is a smaller gap between my youngest and they are two peas in a pod. The one interprets for the other, they have their own little habits and routines together etc. The days when they nap at the same time (which happens as baby gets older and has less naps but they're much longer) are the best and I sleep too. Before that it's much harder because you can't sleep when the baby sleeps as you have a toddler.

What I found harder than anything practical was the emotional side of it. My toddler having to be made to wait constantly as I was tending to the baby. However they were both babies really! People would offer to have the toddler so I could focus on the baby but I actually needed them to clean my house prepare us food etc!

Wouldn't change it.

Mine are 22 months apart. It is hard but I like that they go through similar life experiences together.

Thank you all, you’re so kind. I know plenty of people manage 2 under 2 so I’m sure I can, even if it takes some adjustment. Luckily I have 8 months! All being well, of course. Next to tell my husband! I think he will be scared but supportive. He started a new high pressure job this week so I’m going to try and wait until Friday evening.