Need advice

[Mummypaige6]

Hi everyone hope I don’t get Judge for this. I’m currently 1-2 weeks pregnant what clear blue says on the pregnancy test. I have baby girl 7month old already I was so over moon to find out I was pregnant with her. I’m still on mat level until after Christmas anyway I’m very in two minds about this pregnancy apart of me wants to end it but I said I would never do that as I disagree with it. I don’t feel happy like I did with my other pregnancy I have a judge mental family and my other half don’t pay for any of the baby stuff we not in the best relationship at the moment he trying to control me I have thought about leaving him but stayed for my girl and try my best to works things out but he just go back to his old ways he also don’t seem happy about this pregnancy he said we have no choice but to keep it as he believes. I just don’t know
what to do I just want to do right by my girl one way I would love to have her having a bother or a sister be close in age to play with the any advice

No judgement from me OP. I’d also say it’s one thing to say you’d never have an abortion when you’re not and have never been in that position, but it’s another thing entirely to find yourself in that position and really have to make that choice, don’t judge yourself for that.

You have an unsupportive partner, a judgemental and presumably unsupportive family, you’re already funding everything for the child you have on your own. In your shoes I’d be asking myself, practically:

1. Can I afford to have another baby now?
2. Do I really want another child to this man?
3. Can I cope with another baby with no support from a partner or family?
4. Is now the right time for another baby?

Think about the practical bits first. It can be lovely to have children close in age absolutely, but it is also very expensive and if you are funding it all on your own then it may not be doable. Also factor in that if you’re pregnant now and on maternity leave until after Christmas you may not be eligible for any maternity pay for your second pregnancy.

I think the answer is something you have to decide. I frantically was searching for an answer when I got pregnant, I felt in mental turmoil for months thinking what to do, but I couldn’t do the abortion. & it was the best thing that’s ever happened to me. I wouldn’t change having my boy for a million pounds. You might feel like that when/if you meet your second baby too. Also this sounds stupid but when I put bluey on for my boy I think how much I would love to give him a sibling. It’s a best friend for life… also, my partner split up with me when baby was 3 months old, one thing I dread is when custody is split, like it makes me feel sick so I completely understand why you would stay… but then I also think I bet I wouldn’t have such a tight bond with my son if all my attention was constantly split between him and my ex, so there’s that. & also if you did have baby 2, atleast they’d have their little best mate with them when custody gets shared. That’s a big thing. Not to drag this comment too long but me and my brothers parent split young, & I think the fact we were always together through the visiting made it feel seamless. I worry about my son not having that. Don’t think about the money, you’ve got half the stuff you’ll need already, that would work itself out.

Would really really recommend some abortion counselling to help you decide if you want to keep or not keep the baby.

i booked in with CHOICES charity and they were absolutely amazing. I had 2 free therapy sessions 1.5 hours each. And they helped me come to a decision all by myself

Contact your maternity triage re the blood OP. I also agree with previous posters, try and get counselling through the abortion clinic, they are trained specifically for this and are probably the best people to speak to. We are extremely fortunate and lucky that we don’t live in a country where abortions are illegal and we can make these choices about our own bodies. I am 100% pro choice so there is no judgement from me. But if I was you and didn’t have a gut feeling, I would speak to someone who could help. Good luck