Scared to take pregnancy test

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I’m almost certain I’m pregnant. Late period, stomach cramps and heartburn (bad!). I had this when I was pregnant twice (had an abortion and miscarried) and the symptoms was exactly the same.

I mentioned it to my partner off the bat who said could I be pregnant? We aren’t trying for a baby, however aren’t been safe either. However I’m still terrified to take a test! We’re due to go away in mid to late June next year and if I am pregnant, baby would be due early July. So we couldn’t go away and I’d feel I would be letting people down (group holiday)

im not even sure how I’d react if I was pregnant. I’m excited at the thought however also terrified! I’m not worried about what my partner would say as I know he would be supportive, just feel like it’s the ‘wrong’ time.

any advice or stories from people in the same situation? 😬

I would just like to say that I found out I was pregnant 2 weeks before my scheduled vacation with my husband to universal studios in Orlando. We were both very excited for the baby of course, but I was secretly very disappointed in the timing. And I have been several times before with my family (years ago, before I met my husband). But I always dreamed of going with him. I am SUCH a big Potter fan and I've dreamed of experiencing the Wizarding World with my husband.

We still went on the trip, and it was OK. But not like I imagined. My hormones were kicking my ass so I was soooo emotional and moody (would cry in public and the most random times). I couldn't ride any ride except for one Dr. Seuss train ride that I road like 10 times lol. I let my husband ride whatever he wanted, but I just sat around the entire time with our bags waiting for him. I was SO excited to ride the new Hagrid's ride, which is the only Harry Potter one I haven't been on before. But couldn't ride that. I window shopped a lot but that got old and depressing when I wanted to buy everything but shouldn't lol. We did buy a cute Harry Potter onesie for the baby though.

We even went to the new water park, Volcano Bay, which I have never been to before. And all I could do was go in the pool.

I was a hormonal mess and couldn't do any rides. But I did enjoy to very yummy food and extremely immersive environment. It was overall ok, but it also wasn't great timing that I got pregnant before the trip. I wish I could have done so much more with my husband on the trip.

That being said, I don't care. We will absolutely go back with our baby (bring the grandparents so they can babysit while I finally ride the rides lol). But I don't really care now about missing the stuff on that trip. Honestly, my biggest regret was how hormonal/moody I was lol. All I am thinking about is my little baby girl and that trip is just a teeny tiny blip in this pregnancy.

You can go on that trip again. But honestly, your baby will be so important to you that you won't care much about missing it. In my opinion.

Advice is take a test you’re just putting off the enviable why wait

If you're pregnant you're pregnant, whether you take the test or not. But taking the test will give you certainty one way or another and you can start to plan..

Not quite the same situation, but we'd booked to go abroad over Christmas this year with my in laws & DP's extended family. All booked and paid for by February this year. July comes and I find out I'm pregnant. Due mid-feb next year, which puts me at 32 weeks when we'd be away. In our case we're hopeful I can still go, but it's by no means certain. I felt awful that it might mean we have to cancel (this is a trip they've been planning/building up to for years) but.. It is what it is. And as MiL said - she'd much rather have a grandchild than have us with her over one Christmas.

Yes, timing sucks sometimes, but it's just one holiday. People will understand - making plans so far in to the future, you have to be prepared for some things to change in the mean time and you just have to deal with them as they come up.

Take the test, find out if you're pregnant or not, then you can make your plans and decide what to do.

It's rarely the 'right' time OP.

For me with my first, i was in a brand new relationship after getting out of an abusive marriage which saw me hospitalised at the end. I was still legally married to the other person and going through a criminal case, still living with parents after fleeing my marital home etc. Definitely not the right time and then covid hit when I was 4 months pregnant.

This time round me and my now DH were in the middle of returning to the UK after living overseas for several years with our daughter. We'd sold our house but no jobs as we previously had our own business so now worried about finding DH a job and living off one wage as I'm not entitled to any maternity pay. I also got my BFP in the middle of an all inclusive holiday. Also not the right time.

I do believe that everything happens for a reason at the time it's meant to happen though. In my case, I have no regrets whatsoever, my family is my world. Friends and holidays etc can come at any time, no true friend should be mad at you for this.

Good luck

Just take a test. And if you aren't take precautions you are trying for a baby - no point pretending otherwise! hope it's the outcome you want.

Test took this afternoon, clear blue digital and took around 5 mins to come up as not pregnant. Instinct is telling me not to believe it because the symptoms so I’ll test again in a few days

How late is your period?

But if your already late on your period then you would have gotten a positive?

That'll be a relief for you if it's negative - but since I read this I felt I should say.. if you're not ready for a baby then you need to be more careful. It wouldn't fair for you or baby

Only 2 days, idk if it’s to early or if it’s just a coincidence of symptoms

If you're late you'd have a positive test by now. Sounds like it's a good thing anyway. If you don't want a baby right now take proper precautions.

Agreed

I appreciate all the messages stating ‘take proper precautions’ however please can people be a bit nicer? If I was pregnant of course I would want the baby, there would be no question.

To be fair, that contradicts your previous post ("I'm not sure how I would react") as it doesn't suggest you'd have a baby without question. And if you're going to be blasé about contraception without properly knowing what outcome you are looking for, people are going to suggest you take precautions. Nobody has been rude.

Test again in a couple of days to be sure.

I get stomach cramps and heartburn just before my period starts.

I was almost completely certain I was pregnant 2 weeks ago. I have had 2 babies and felt the familiar pulling sensations, i was extremely tired, and nauseated. My period was also late by 2 days. I took a pregnancy test the day my period was due and was negative. I'm not sure if maybe I had been pregnant then had a chemical or if it was just an odd bunch of period symptoms. It could be possible that you just ovulated later, and so your period will be later than normal. But you could always buy a pink dye test as they are usually quite accurate.