Who can I talk to about feeling so confused?

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I don't really know who I can talk to about this. Found out I was pregnant this week and feel like my world has been turned upside down. DH was shocked but doesn't want me to be sad as he's worried about me and has been so supportive and lovely. I really, really didn't want another DC, it was a contraceptive failure and a huge shock. I don't want an abortion and I won't have one categorically but my DC are not his and are way past nappies and bottles. They spend some time at their dads as we had a whole future planned that has just disappeared and I desperately wanted that future. Who can I talk to about feeling this way? Not even met my midwife yet but I don't know if she's the right person, they're so busy and they're not therapists (they are amazing, but that's not their job).

Hi OP, didn't want to read and run. That sounds really tough for you, your head must be spinning. My third baby was a contraception failure too - but we had been discussing maybe having a third anyway so a different place to you.

Can you book an appointment with your GP to talk to? They may be able to refer you for further support. If you can afford private therapy, maybe look to see if there are any local counsellors that can help you?

You have plenty of time to think and talk about things. Good luck, and I hope you find the support you need.