39 and dreading tell my parents

[MammaJoe]

I’m 39 and have a six year old son. I’m currently pregnant with my second child which will be born when I’m 40. I’m dreading telling people especially my parents as I know they will think I’m way too old and being selfish. Anyone else experienced this?

Some parents are just weird whatever. We got about time to from the ILs in our mid 30s, despite that they were even older when they had their first.

I had mine at 37 and 40 (3 weeks before 41st birthday). I never fruit embarrassed, naughty or anything like that at all!

I had my second st 40, it's
Quite common these days with university, cost of everything and building careers first! My obstetrician said I wasn't in her radar for early/40 week delivery ... she said she'd check me at 39 weeks and make a elective section decision then (due to failed induction with first for same reasons) ... she said she had many pregnant ladies who were well into their 40's
Congratulations! 🥳

I had my second child at 41. It's absolutely fine. Hope all goes well and congratulations.

Thank you! Yes I think they will feel obliged to provide childcare as they have for all their other grandchildren. But generally my parents had me and my siblings very young and so to them that’s the norm. Whenever I have told them
about friends expecting in their late 30s they’ve been very vocal about how unfair it is on the child.

This is a sad view. And now you feel crap because of it. Shame on them.

I hope you make it clear that you're happy about your news.

I had my only child aged 40 and half my antennas class were the same age. It's not the same as in was in the fifties!

Not at all, my parents had me in their 40s. I’m 37 and pregnant now, i don’t think my family would ever react like that. It’s not too old and you’re not being selfish at all! X

I'm 40 and just had my second DC, DS1 is 6 so very similar to you. I think 40 is a very normal age to have a baby nowadays, don't feel awkward about it, just treat it as good news

I would say what my nanna always said…..’a baby is never bad news’ ……congratulations OP 💐