14 weeks pregnant and fed up

[Ros2023]

I’m 14 weeks pregnant and getting to this point has been draining! I’ve been suffering with feeling sick, being sick, tiredness and feeling generally crap. I was prescribed Xonvea a few weeks ago and it has helped other then it makes me feel sleepy which I don’t particularly like. I haven’t taken any tablets for 2 days thinking that by now the sickness might have eased and I wouldn’t need them but tonight I have been horrendously sick.
I am SO fed up of feeling so rubbish all of the time. It feels like it’s been forever and that it will last forever! I feel so negative about it all and I just want to fast forward a few months and have my baby in my arms.
can someone please send me positive vibes! I need some positive energy to get me through!

No advice I'm afraid, but solidarity.
I'm 10+4 with twins and I feel dreadful all the time. I had sickness and feeling tired with my son but this is something else. I already feel like I've been pregnant for ever and because we found out about the twins at 6 weeks, it feels like I've had those additional worries for ages too.

With my son the sickness and fatigue faded from about 16 weeks although I vomited just once (and then felt fine) until 22 weeks. Then I really did feel OK for the rest of the pregnancy and probably enjoyed the last 4/5 weeks the most (probably because I'd finished work then!).

I didn't need meds with my son but I've been on cyclizine this time which doesn't seem to do much. If the Xonvea helps just keep on taking it.

Could you do a countdown? I focus on the next appointment/scan as a way for it to feel closer to the next milestone. It helps me mentally instead of thinking about the end because it’s too far for me to focus on. I only have 1 week until my 16 week appointment with the midwife.

I haven’t taken that before and I’m not on sickness medication, but from 4pm each day I am completely wiped out and by 8pm I’m ready for bed. Does that medication have that as a typical side affect?

Thank you both 💕 I’ve been doing the countdown to each appointment too. 2 more weeks till my 16 week scan then hopefully 20 week scan will come around soon after that. Then I’ll be halfway there!
the drowsiness is a typical side affect of the tablets but its frustrating when you have to function and you just feel knackered all of the time!
im just trying to get through each day but it’s hard going isn’t it. Just keep trying to remind myself it’s not forever, it’s worth it and I can do it.

Whenever I get down I think that the alternative - still not being pregnant - would be far worse. It doesn't always help right away, but I'm a definite believer that perspective and mindset helps even when things are a bit rough. Being/ feeling sick is awful & I understand why it isn't always easy to have a PMA. Best of luck for the rest of your pregnancy & hope you feel better soon. X

I was on Xonvea from around week 10 until the day I gave birth at full term! I took it at bedtime so the side effect of drowsiness helped me sleep and the medication stayed in my system during the day to help with nausea. I was told by midwives, nurses, doctors and pharmacist it was safe to take for the whole pregnancy and I do have a very lovely and healthy baby boy.

The nausea is horrendous, you have my sympathy!

I'm sorry to say I didn't really get over the sickness completely until 20 weeks though it did start to gradually improve after 14 weeks. It also returned right at the end of the pregnancy.
It seems like forever now but it will all fade into memory once you have your baby.
In the meantime be kind to yourself. Plenty of rest and eat whatever you can keep down. In my case it was porridge and dry cream crackers. Cant bear porridge to this day!

You have my full sympathies OP, it's awful. I'm obviously so happy to be having a baby and very excited to meet her etc but I flippin' hate pregnancy

There. I said it.

I'm 18+4 now, still utterly exhausted and suffering sickness and nausea still (although I do think it's less than it was at its peak). Not even having any movements yet which I think would make it seem more 'real' and help me focus on baby more.

I haven't got any advice, just solidarity that you are not alone.

Thankyou everyone. Although I have a really supportive husband and family and friends I sometimes feel like I’m just alone because my life lately is trying to get through every day the best I can. It’s nice to know I’m not the only one that feels this way!
this is my 3rd pregnancy but my last one was nearly 13 years ago and I coped fine but this time it’s hit me like a brick. We can do this 💕