14 weeks pregnant

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I’m 16weeks and just announced to friends and family. Mostly people are happy for us but have noticed some friends seem to be awkward around us about it? I’ve tried to not talk about it or bring it up as much as I know some people are going through stuff so I am being sensitive but we didn’t really get much acknowledgment where as some seem pretty excited for us. I’m not saying everything should be revolved around us and our pregnancy but I do feel slightly hurt. Has anyone experienced this?

Maybe your friends have experienced a loss?

Not that I know of

You never know what's going on in other peoples lives OP we tried for 2 years after a loss nobody knew our struggles I had family members continuously ask when I would have kids I even said one day "it's not that easy" to try get them to stop but all I got was what do you mean as they never experienced trouble having kids so didn't understand or even contemplate that we might be struggling. I found it difficult when people would announce pregnancies I was happy for them of course but I would always make me very sad it's very hard to watch what feels like everyone around you get their baby while you struggle every month for years so don't be too harsh on them because honestly it's not something people talk about it's hard and painful so they could well be struggling to conceive, congratulations btw

Congratulations on your pregnancy BTW!

Congratulations!

Not everyone will care much. It doesn't make them terrible friends, but not everyone sees having kids as a joy. For some, it came be painful. Others may be indifferent or worry they won't see you as often as your priorities will change. It's news for everyone you tell and you'll find out in time who will be there in times ahead and who won't.

You also never know what they're going through or have been through. I lost my first pregnancy just as a friend announced hers. I had a D&C for my second pregnancy loss the day before three of my other friends announced their pregnancies. One of them was due the same day as my first baby's due date. I couldn't interact with their news to the extent they'd probably have liked and probably looked a bit rude. I wasn't hurt by them, I was terribly hurt by circumstances out of anyone's control, but it wasn't appropriate to say that to them when they were sharing happy news. So I didn't tell them. I didn't tell anyone about either loss because I didn't want to burst their happy bubble.

I've just lost my 3rd baby at 19 weeks. One of my friends keeps reaching out to check on me, but her profile picture is her with her two young children and her newborn. It hurts to even look. It's nothing she's done wrong, and I respond quickly and politely, but I can't say, "Sorry, your happiness constantly reminds me of my trauma."

Let the news sink in and keep feeling all the joy anyway. Good luck.

Multiple rounds of ivf - no one knew outside of immediate family. Every pregnancy announcement would send me into a doom spiral and I didn’t always have the emotional capacity to pretend otherwise so it was better for everyone if I didn’t engage .

also at 16 weeks, you aren’t likely to be showing and so it’s not even going to be at the forefront of people’s minds . I don’t talk about my pregnancy at all because I struggle with the thought my joy might bring people pain - and a couple friends have admitted they forgot until it was very obvious.