30 weeks, Hips so sore at night! Help me anyone please 🙏

[Orangeroses243]

As per title really. I spoke to my midwife who said there is not much we can do....
I just thought maybe someone else will may have tried and tested tips I have not yet attempted that could help?!

I am hardly sleeping as i am tossing from side to side. Its the the tops of my legs on outter hips, lower back buttock pain thats absolutely killing me at night!! I am up every other hour, along with bathroom trips. Badically now getting bare minimum sleep!😵‍💫😵‍💫 I am starting maternity leave in a weeks time - thank God as it's getting difficult to get up and ready if i am honest. So from next week i can get some day time naps in that may help me get some sleep in but that will be minimal if I cannot ease this pain everytime i lay down and drift off! It's only when I lay down and sleep!!

So far .. I have a blanket and a duvet doubledover on a mattress as its a fairly hard mattress. I have tried sleeping with 5 individual pillows wedged and tucked between knees ect. I then invested in the large u- shape pregnancy pillow. Tried this alone. As well as with another pillow between legs. - this where I am at writing this at 3am, knowing I have work coming up on a Sunday 🥹🥱 not an early start but still a good 8 hour shift and I feel knackered already!
Nothing has helped and it's making going to bed at night a crap time as I'm thinking 'here we go another night'
Any help, tips.or advice massively appreciated x

BBHugme pillow. It’s absolutely incredible.

@Boltonb thanks for your response. I am literally using the exact same shape support pillow (minus the Ties on each end) has made not the slight bit of difference since using for over a week as when I didn't have it. X

Osteopathy is the only thing that helped me with spd - find one that specialises in pregnancy stuff and get as many sessions in as you can. I go weekly as its the only thing thay keeps me able to move around and to have some semblance of normality.

Also dont sleep fully square on your hip, just wedge a pillow along one side of your back. As long as youre not lying flat on your back its fine apparently. I basically sleep twisted, my legs are on the side and my torso is less so to take the pressure off my hip but still enough that im not flat basically. Hope this helps!

@Orangeroses243 I am in the same shoes just I am in 28 week. I have an u shaped maternity pillow, and switching side from side helps a bit. My midwife suggested physio, but 2 weeks ago it wasn't that bad so i was silly enough to decline it.

I am thinking of adding a soft mattress topper and see if it helps as I think the pain is caused by pressing the hip to the mattress and the widening hips need more and more pillows to keep the hip joint in a healthy angle

I don’t know if I was just lucky and it’s something that comes and goes, but I had this badly around 25-30 weeks and not really a problem now at 35. I did some gentle pilates style sideways leg raises - standing up not lying down, a few times a day. And I combine two large pillows with the pregnancy pillow so my legs are really quite wide apart to sleep, along their whole length. I still wake up with a sore enough hip to turn sides every few hours, but then it’s fine when I do and I get a decent amount of sleep.

I've been doing a few stretches before bed which seem to help, there's loads of videos on social media/YouTube. Along with some Epsom salt baths in the evening.

Go on to the Pelvic Partnership website. You can find advice and suggestions for treatment and ways to cope. There is also a helpline.

It's important that you get manual therapy from an experienced practitioner asap. For some people, that's all they need. But you need to go into labour having had this treatment preferably.

Many women travel to a Pelvic Partnership recommended practitioner but if you find that your local Well Woman physio is carrying out the therapy in line with the description given on the Pelvic Partnership website, that's all you need.

Try sleeping in satin on satin so it's easier to turn. It does make a difference. Pace yourself. Try to maintain enough movement that you're not becoming immobile if you can. Sometimes that's impossible. Don't do so much that the pain becomes unmanageable. You're not helping anyone by doing that.

Do the exercises recommended if at all possible. Even just a few a day is much better than nothing at all.

It's a very personal decision, but I was on quite strong analgesics for the final trimester. It was better than being unable to breathe with the pain. I worried that baby would be born addicted but he was fine. We do what we can.

I had this in my last pregnancy and now again as I'm currently pregnant. Only 12 weeks but it's started already. It's awful and so painful. I ran out an bought a memory foam mattress topper from IKEA (single one for my side of the bed only) and it cured it overnight. So glad I took action instead of suffering through without sleep like I did in my last pregnancy. Also, I searched on MN yesterday and people had good advice about sleeping positions. The one that works for me is to sleep on side. The leg of the same side you have straight down and the other leg you bring up slightly towards your tummy and rest it on a pillow. So pillow NOT between knees but only the uppermost knee resting on it because the other one is straight. Hope that makes sense.

I am really sorry you are experiencing this. I had this with my first and I was in agony. I told my midwife and she said the same thing as yours did. This isn’t true. Please please call your midwife again and get referred to a pelvic physio - you might even be able to refer yourself depending on your area. They will fast track you (to be seen within a couple of weeks) and can help you so much. FYI it’s likely it’s not just how you’re sleeping at night it could be to do with how you’re moving in the day as well.

they'll explain how to keep your pelvis level at all times (getting in & out the car, rolling over in bed, going up & down stairs etc) this isn’t something you should have to suffer with.

I saw a physio recently with my second pregnancy and after one session she has helped me so much! Don’t suffer in silence!!!