Fear of miscarriage

[Thelma2024]

I just found out I was pregnant— around 4 weeks. This is my first child but it’s so hard for me to enjoy it without worrying I’ll lose it especially with PCOS. I continue to take tests but I realize it doesn’t matter because then with a miscarry your HCG can be high for a while. My first appointment isn’t till November and I am losing my mind. Does anyone have any hopeful signs or symptoms I can look forward to and have experienced the same feeling? I haven’t told anyone I’m pregnant besides my husband bc I do not want to explain why I’m not pregnant if a miscarry happens.

Hi sweetheart. I found out I was pregnant 2 weeks into my pregnancy. I’m 18 years old and have an anxiety disorder so I’ve also been super terrified of a miscarriage. I always was and still am checking for blood whenever i have slight cramps or just went to the bathroom. But I have gotten over it as much as I could. The best thing to remember is looking at miscarriage stories on the internet is your worst enemy. Not only does it make miscarriages seem common it induces stress and anxiety and that’s something you really don’t deserve. It’s best to remember that the chance of a miscarriage in this day and age is actually quite low. You’ll be receiving a lot of care and if you’re really scared you’ll have your midwives to talk to and they can issue you a free therapy session if it’s making you scared. If you’re high risk you’ll get more appointments with your midwife to get checked up on. Now as a young worried mum the best signs of pregnancy to look out for is morning sickness, cramping, tiredness and you’ll feel your heart beat raise a little. You’ll also notice you’re warmer than you use to be sometimes and maybe colder at certain times as well. And maybe you’ll even notice you’re more forgetful. Your brain shrinks during pregnancy known as pregnancy brain. Now not everyone gets these symptoms and I personally was always scared when I suddenly didn’t feel nauseous but there was really nothing to worry about. Our bodies will support our baby more than you know. You have until 12 weeks and then the chance of miscarriage lowers to a very very low chance and trust me it’ll come quicker than you think right now. It feels like yesterday I was looking at a positive pregnancy test in denial. Honestly there’s nothing to be scared about and if you’re really worried to tell anyone but your husband wait until your 12 week scan. I also recommend if you have the money book a private scan at 6-7 weeks to see your healthy little one to put your mind at ease. Congratulations mama I promise you’ll be all okay and you’ll get your healthy baby girl or baby boy in the end. Remember to only look at your local health providers website for advice never take advice from unknown websites they make you overthink!! Lots of love 🤍

Congratulations on your pregnancy! I totally understand your worries though.
It’s normal to feel nervous, especially in these early weeks.
I would highly suggest getting a private scan if you can. You can have them from about 6 weeks and they’re so so good at reassuring you before you go for the 12 week scan. I think I had 2 private scans before the 12 week scan as I was so anxious.
You may start to notice symptoms at around 6 weeks - this is commonly when symptoms start for most people. Tiredness, nausea, vomiting, cramping, food and smell aversions, heightened sense of smell or taste, there’s so many pregnancy symptoms you may or may not experience. Also, some people have no symptoms and have healthy pregnancies. Others will have very mild symptoms that won’t start until later in pregnancy. So don’t worry if you don’t have any super obvious symptoms for a while. You might just be a lucky one who doesn’t feel constantly sick!
I know you don’t want to tell anyone other than your husband and it’s totally your decision. However, from personal experience I was very glad I had told my parents and best friend before I had my miscarriage. Then when the miscarriage happened they were able to support me and look after me for a couple of days, especially as I had a toddler to look after too.
It’s hard, but try not to spend all your time worrying about it as it won’t change the outcome, but it will highly affect your mood.