Question for those who have previous loss

[Mum23boys1987]

When did you start trying for the next pregnancy after you're loss d&c?

For those having rainbow babies how long did it take to get pregnant again?

I have had 3 MMCs with surgical management. First time I didn't try again soon as I split with my ex soon after. Second time I didn't ovulate before my period came back - we tried again that next full cycle. For my most recent one we started trying again immediately, I ovulated around 3.5 weeks after surgery.
First pregnancy took 2.5 years to conceive, second 6 months and third 9 months. No baby yet unfortunately, currently in the middle of cycle 5 of trying again since the third loss.

@Mum23boys1987 so sorry you have experienced this. Wishing you luck xx

@moosey89 so sorry you have been through this 3 times 💔, wishing you luck too xx

@Mum23boys1987 I had surgical management for MMC on 22nd April. My first period came on 24th May and we conceived immediately when I next ovulated early June. I'm now 20 weeks. I feel very fortunate that it happened so quickly (especially since I'm 37) as I know it can take a long time. It's been an anxious few months with constant fear that something will go wrong again. But I am still very grateful to be where I am.

Wishing you all the best xx

I got pregnant really quickly the first month we tried but MC at 7 weeks we didn't try again for 3/4 months but it took us 2 years to convince again but it turned out my partner had very low sperm morphology and that's why it took so long we were just about to start IVF the month I conceived naturally

So very sorry to read you have had this heartbreak repeated 3 time's. Love and sticky baby vibes to you its so so hard

I didn't use birth control after my miscarriages, so I guess straight away? It was several weeks after each before I was ready for sex again though.

I have two rainbow babies. Both were conceived within two months of the miscarriage they followed.

Gives so much hope x

Is anyone in this situation and in their 40s ?

I am 37 myself nearer 38

I've had five losses. The first time I got pregnant again immediately, the last time I had secondary infertility and it took a while. I think you can only go by how you feel, at first I just wanted to try again but as time went on I was finding it much harder to cope with and so would take a break, and after the fifth I was referred for investigations so that took time.

Sorry tı hear of you're losses so heartbreaking.
At the moment i plan to have a normal period hopefully first and actually get intimate again with hubby as i lost my sex drive during the pregnancy.
it's only 10 days since my d&c. İ have a check tomorrow so intend to discuss how long we need to wait aswell.

I'm sorry for your loss. I had surgical management for a miscarriage last September and waited until my period had come back to try again - that took 5 weeks after the surgery and I was glad I waited as I needed a bit of space to process the loss and let myself get on a more even keel emotionally. I then conceived again on the third cycle trying and my rainbow baby was born two and a half weeks ago.

Good luck for when you are ready to try again. ❤️

I was in this situation, now over 17 weeks and 46. I had 9 miscarriages before this one, never had a D&C, always miscarried fully and naturally.
There’s quite a lot of newer evidence showing that it’s easier to get pregnant within 6 months after a MC so I never waited. It was certainly the case for me, I had several MCs in a row and then a break of a year or longer till the next pregnancy.

I conceived 3 months after my miscarriage.

I'm sorry for your loss 💛 I had a miscarriage at 7 weeks in April. I'm now 17 weeks pregnant with our rainbow so it didn't take long for us at all, but I feel very lucky for this as I know it's not always the case. Sending you a cuddle x

Sorry to hear of your MMC. I had one and was told just to wait to have a period then try. Best of luck x

This is a very personal decision that only you can decide I think. I had a molar pregnancy (so ended in D&C) and started trying two months after - fell pregnant immediately and it resulted in a miscarriage.
I started trying again about four months after the second D&C and got pregnant again almost immediately.
The third pregnancy ended in a TFMR due to brain abnormality at over five months and that just destroyed me. It took me a long time to get over and we didn’t properly start trying until maybe a year after (although we weren’t using contraception towards the end, just not tracking ovulation). It took almost three years to get pregnant again so I did often regret waiting so long especially due to my age (currently 38) , i felt frustrated that I had wasted time that I just didn’t have to spare
But then again, I just wasn’t ready emotionally until an year after the medical abortion and it took me a while to find a good therapist I felt comfortable with to properly manage the loss, PTSD and anxiety triggered by the TFMR.

Hit post too soon!
If you feel emotionally ready and well supported then I would probably follow the medical advice and wait one period, given your age. That way you won’t have any regrets about losing time

I’m 37 and had a mmc (medical management) at the end of July. Got my period about 4 weeks later in August. Conceived in September and now 6 weeks (so still early days).

I had an early miscarriage, in December 2023.

I got pregnant again in Feb 2024, and our rainbow baby is due in just a few weeks.

We didn't try until I ovulated in the February, and we just happened to be very lucky that I caught. I won’t be able to fully relax until she’s finally in my arms, as my pregnancy hasn’t been the easiest, but I feel so blessed to have her.

Whatever you decide to do OP, I wish you the best of luck. It may be best to follow medical advice before trying again, just to ensure the best possible chance. If they tell you to wait a period or two, then do that. Your body needs time to heal after a miscarriage.