Does your dh find you attractive while pregnant?

[cluesinthename]

Dh told me he doesn’t find me attractive while pregnant- the bump isn’t attractive..

im not looking to go in on him, he’s a loving husband 99% of the time lol. But I wondered if that was normal!
I always thought a pregnant woman was hot to a man! But clearly not to mine …

i did ask the question so honestly was happy he was able to be so honest with me.

A lot of people don’t find pregnancy attractive (I would say most!), and for a lot of women they don’t feel very attractive! It could be down to a lot of reasons, but knowing there is a baby growing in the more can be off putting for some people.

Bizarrely DH thought I was sexy as hell during my first pregnancy, but didn’t fancy me during my second.

I put a lot of weight on with my first so think that could’ve been why 🤷🏻‍♀️

He certainly gave every impression of it, although I looked like a chipmunk at the end so I imagine there was an element of theatre involved.

My husband thought I was still beautiful etc but didn't find me sexually attractive and I kind of got that.... I probably would feel the same if he had a human in his tummy 😂🙈

I’m 22 weeks with twins so you can imagine how I look and feel! Horrible lol! My partner still wants to have sex all the time and I really wish he didn’t want to!!! 😭

DH found me particularly attractive when pregnant. Not sure why. But he still finds me attractive now I’m post natal and chunkier. Who knows. maybe he’s just a bit desperate 🤣

No, mine didn't and wouldn't even look at or touch my bump, which upset me (still does!)

I think this is normal for a lot of people.
My husband says I look beautiful and he admires me because I'm carrying our baby, but at the same time feels a bit freaked out having sex because there's a tiny human in there. He will still touch my belly and be affectionate though. He's been like this with all of my pregnancies and the first one it would upset me but now we're on the third child I'm knackered and glad he leaves me alone 🤣

Very, bump and jab bruises and mega veiny boobs and all.

Sorry if you’re upset OP, yes you asked but it’s normal to find comments like that hurtful especially if you’re not feeling your usual self.

I'm currently in my last couple of weeks of my pregnancy and my husband tells me I'm beautiful everyday.

He wouldn't have turned me down but wouldn't have lied and told me I was looking my best either. I don't think he would've come near me in the last trimester because I looked massive as I'm a small person. I used to get “any day now” comments from people and concerned looks on the street when I was 6 months along.

He tells me I'm beautiful but he definitely isn't sexually attracted to me as he usually when I'm not pregnant

I’m not upset.. I just feel like pregnancy suits me but it clearly doesn’t if dh doesnt fancy a piece when im pregnant 😂😂

So sorry about that @Eggsley

im sooo surprised by the responses!! Thank you though!

Mine too it's bloody tiresome and I feel guilty for not wanting to....I'm only pregnant with one and that's hard enough!
... currently my piles are playing up which has given me a week off but he's still jumping me while I'm stacking the dishwasher 😂

I've heard this is quite common and not about you personally not suiting being pregnant or him not liking your body etc..... it's more of a mental block type of thing where the man just cannot get past that there is a baby inside you and it knocks him sick thinking of doing anything sexual. It's something in his head

When Hitting around the 26 week mark I noticed DH wasn't as hungry as before 😂 so I asked lol He said " of course I still find you attractive, your carrying our baby!" Which was lovely but ive noticed a dip in our sex life. Now getting towards 29 weeks we both laugh as it's getting harder and harder to do the deed as time goes on! Sometimes just stop during as bump is just in they way and I get knackered 😂😂
I think he just wouldn't say to me I don't find you overly sexually attractive compared to when I am not is what I am saying.
I know he wants me to enjoy our first pregnancy.
I personally don't feel sexy pregnant either, so i too probably dont instigate as i did prior to this stage. I think for both of us this aspect has changed for now which I think is perfectly normal for us as it's not become an issue. we joke about it infact - " like do you remember when we could have sex all the time however we wanted 😂😂😂'" @cluesinthename don't worry I don't think it's just your man, you just look lovely and pregnant for now and its just different thats to how things were before. Enjoy and embrace this time as much as you can it soon passes and before you know it your pregnant body will be gone. Emotions can play a big part - they do for me anyway so this is what has helped me as i feel so lucky to be pregnant and experience growing a baby for the first time. Xx

my husband didn't complement me once when I was pregnant twice. didn't go near me at all.

First husband didn't but then I found out he was boffing the nurse at work. Second husband adored me, my body, the bump, new big boobs and the whole miracle of it all. He was like a farmer watching his crops grow, loved my growing bump and instantly adored our baby (his first child). If we hadn't been really old parents I'm sure he'd be pitching for many more.

I should add he definitely found it sexy but did get weirded out by the close proximity of penis and baby as the arms and legs started kicking through the bump. Im sure there was less PIV in the end because of this.

Yes DP is still very keen and touchy feely. I wish he wasn’t in a way as I’m quite happy to sleep and be left alone! Definitely haven’t been left feeling that I’m less attractive to him.

I understand some men can’t or won’t fake it, but it would be quite shit to make you feel unattractive over the changes to your body that you have no control over.

Currently pregnant with my third and he can't get enough but he wasn't like this the 1st time he said he's really appreciating my body as he knows this is our last baby meanwhile I feel like a whale 😂

I'm sorry to the ladies whose husbands and partners have made them feel unattractive in pregnancy. It's outrageous - you are carrying their effing child and it's already hard enough on us that our bodies are changing to accomodate pregnancy. Those husbands & partners need to either not say anything or bloody try harder to conceal it.

My husband has always verbalised that he finds the pregnant body very attractive (weather he means it or not who knows!) but he says it's something about being particularly womanly. I'm usually quite petite/athletic so I think he actually enjoys the extra curves pregnancy has given me even if I don't

Yes DH liked it, or claimed he did anyway. We took some black and white photos when I was almost due (just for us as a memento, will never see the light of Instagram!) and he had one of them printed for himself when we did some pictures of the baby printed for his Mum