Babies bed time help?!

[Sahmcharlie]

My DD has just turned 12 weeks, for the past 6 weeks or so i have been putting her in bec between 10.30-11 and shes been waking up for feeds at 2.20/3 then 5.30/6 even the occasional 7am

since hitting 12 weks ive read babies should be going to bed earlier so ive been aiming for between 9-10 however this had required me waking more in the night often 1/ 1.30am - 4am then 6

because of this earlier bed time it feels like my own sleep is of worse quality,

do the benefits of a esrlier bed time for baby warrant a worsee sleep cor myself? Does it even make that much of a difference for her or should i persevere 😣?

I'd stick to the later bedtime. It works for you both and you get more sleep.
i learned to ignore the "shoulds " by the time i had my second, and doing things the way that suited us best was so much easier than trying to implement random rules I'd read about

Wow I hope I get here by 6 weeks 😓😭

I would also suggest sticking with what works for you

We just went by DS schedule until he reached 9 months (eg bed at 10/11) and then noticed he was suddenly getting later and later as he could attempt to stay awake longer, so then we introduced a 8pm bed. By that point though he was either only waking up once in the night, or starting the day early. So setting the 8pm at that point led to a month or two of early early starts eg 4/5am and he was napping again by 8/9am but that did eventually adjust. So by 11/12months he was 8-6/7am start.

He was in our room until he outgrew his nexttome at 8 months exactly. So I think we did a month adjusting to his own room and then set the earlier bed time. Gradual changes.

DS had no issues with us moving the time when we did. That said he was born 5 weeks early. So by 8 months he was a late developer, eg not pulling up on the nexttome yet, not fully sitting unaided. So maybe if he was advancing quicker we may have done the move to a cot sooner and the earlier bed time sooner eg 6-8months rather than at 8-9 months.

Listen to your baby not what it says in the books. It will become obvious when baby needs an earlier bedtime.

My DS started needing an earlier bedtime eg. Getting upset from being downstairs with the lights on at around 4 months.

My DD only started having an 8 o’clockish bedtime at about 8 months because being up and about downstairs never bothered her and she was happy playing in the evenings with us.

Babies don’t need 7pm bedtimes especially at the age where they are best kept in the same room with you when sleeping.

Thanks everyone i put DD to bed at 10.30 last night based on advice and got a 5h40min stretch from her and just gome back down for the 2nd stretch after feed, works so much better

That’s really good. Continue doing what works for you both. Surely your baby is getting good quality sleep too this way. Otherwise she would be waking you.

You will get a feeling when you want to revisit the bedtime but for now it works for you both.