Pregnancy after miscarriages - success stories please?

[Cloudburster90]

Hello lovely people in my phone

I am on my third pregnancy after 2 previous losses (one pretty traumatic).

I had some pink spotting at 5 weeks and they found a subchorionic hematoma but things were growing as they were meant to.

Am due to have another scan on Thursday but have had lots of brown spotting / bleeding yesterday and today. My only previous experiences of this is everything ending in miscarriage. Theyve brought my scan forward to Monday (6W4).

I can’t help but feel this is the end of the road again (feeling less sick today). And am looking for other women’s success stories to tell myself that it does happen. If this one doesn’t work I’m not sure how I’ll find the strength to try again but know that lots of you have amazingly done just that - I’m in awe of you all!

@Cloudburster90 Thought I would jump on your thread as I am going through something similar myself…

So sorry to hear you have had two losses. I had a loss back in July. I started bleeding at 11 weeks and found out I had a blighted ovum.
I am pregnant again, currently 5 weeks, but have started bleeding and cramping… I feel like this is the end of the road again too. It’s hard to stay positive, isn’t it?

I have been Googling like mad and reading lots of forums looking for reassurance. I have come across lots of success stories of women who had multiple losses and went on to have healthy babies. Also, many women who have experienced bleeding and their pregnancies turned out fine. So, it does happen!

Fingers crossed for your scan on Monday, hope it is good news x

I really feel for you as I've been in the same place myself multiple times. I was lucky and had a miscarriage expert obstetrician and she told me 50% of bleeds end in miscarriage bust 50% don't so it's not always going to be bad news. With my first child, after 2 miscarriages, I had on and off spotting from 5 weeks and a big bleed at 12 weeks, it kept on going for 6 weeks, slowly stopping, total
Head fuck as I was terrified. She's 16 now and an adorable young adult! I also had a fair few other miscarriages between her my second child born 3.5 years later and his pregnancy was completely bog standard - I was 40 too so assumed it would be difficult, but no it was fine
So please try to take some solace that you'll have ups and downs, my obstetrician told
Me that some people just have miscarriages but they get there in the end - she was absolutely right
Good luck and sticky thoughts

Hi ladies! I'm kinda in the same boat. I have had two previous losses and am now 4 weeks pregnant. I had some bleeding but it stopped so I'm hoping it was implantation bleeding.

But to give some hope i guess I also had two miscarriages before conceiving my son who is now 5. So I know that it doesn't always end in miscarriage. I had bleeding with his pregnancy but everything turned out okay. I try to remember this but obviously have my times and worries!

I have my fingers crossed for all of you! Xx

I had two miscarriages last year and I'm currently almost 24 weeks pregnant - I had two kids prior to the losses.

Google and forums get addictive don’t they?! And only makes me feel worse (I realise the complete irony of me writing this on a forum… 😂)

Desperately focusing on the happy stories and trying not let myself drown in the unhappy endings.

Best of luck for the next 35 weeks. Update on here about how you get on?

Thank you so much for the positive words and taking the time to respond.

Hearing about happy endings is such a comfort. Really hope I get my happy ending too

Hopefully given the number of weeks you’re at it’s exactly what that is? Best of luck and really hope it works out for you

I had 2 early miscarriages around 6/7 weeks. The third pregnancy I started spotting/bleeding are 6 weeks and just assumed another miscarriage but it was fine and I have 2 children now. Good luck xx

Hello! I have a story with a happy ending 🌈 I had three miscarriages in a row before having my little boy who is almost one. Before these miscarriages I had my daughter and before that I had another loss. So 4 losses in total but two perfect babies. I was seen by the recurrent miscarriage clinic but no cause was found. They did tell me that even after 3 miscarriages I still had a 60% chance of a healthy pregnancy next time and that time the odds were finally in my favour.

The bleeding is just hopefully the hematoma and could even just be old blood especially from that. Try not to read too much into the sickness. With my boy it really did come and go a bit, especially in the early stages (ie before 8 weeks). It’s hard though as one day you feel like you’ve been hit by a truck and the next day you feel better and you’re willing yourself to feel rubbish for the reassurance. But some of the worst sickness I ever had was after a missed miscarriage and with my daughter the sickness wasn’t that bad at all so in my case it didn’t mean much anyway.

If you are bleeding they should be able to offer you progesterone. It was standard practice to offer to all women with recurrent miscarriages at my clinic.

I found the book pregnancy after loss very helpful. It was like having a chat with a friend who had been through it. And trying to keep hopeful and talking to others about how you are feeling were the things that got me through these tough weeks.

Sending strength and hope 💪 🙏

I had a MC at 11 weeks last year, very unexpected and happened suddenly. I’m currently 41 weeks, waiting for baby to arrive! I had light bleeding at 6 weeks in this pregnancy, and it was a small subchorionic hematoma - it went away by my 12 week scan. Hope everything is ok

I had six consecutive miscarriages. All before 12 weeks. We both had tests after the first three and they found one of DH’s chromosomes was upside down in one pair and the most likely outcome was early miscarriage so we thought well 50/50 odds we will be okay. Then after another three we got referred to St Mary’s in London.

I had some other tests and the upshot was I had to take aspirin as soon as I found out I was pregnant. The result is our now 12 year old DD, our miracle child.

I often think of the ones we lost, our eldest would be about to turn 17. Our second one was a missed miscarriage we had a scan at 9 weeks as I’d had spotting and it was all fine, then we went for the dating scan at 11 weeks and our baby had died in between. I had to go in on Christmas Eve for a d&c and ended up staying in overnight as I was ill. I still remember just how horrible it was.

I remember sitting and crying for an hour when I found out I was pregnant with our now DD, just thinking it was all going to end any day. I relaxed a bit after the 20 week scan but was constantly checking I wasn’t bleeding. After she was born I’d often dream she wasn’t real, then wake up and realise she was really here. I can hear her singing in her bedroom now, and feel so incredibly lucky.

Hi @Cloudburster90, sorry to hear you’re having some spotting. It’s the worst, particularly after you’ve miscarried in the past.

I had two miscarriages, one in autumn 2021 and the other in winter 2022. They were both very early, but still upsetting obviously. My husband and I had been referred to a fertility clinic when I became pregnant in January 2023. I didn’t let myself get excited for the longest time, just in case.

The pregnancy started with a splodge of blood followed by brown spotting which gradually lightened and then stopped. From 17 weeks, I had intermittent bleeding. I would go in to be checked each time, and each time it was nothing. They could never see any blood.

My baby just turned one. He is my joy.

I have my fingers crossed for you ❤️

So I had four miscarriages. All at 10-14 weeks.

After three I was investigated and they found nothing wrong with me or my husband. We were both fit & healthy.

My third was a girl and she had Downs.
My fourth was a triploidy.

My fifth pregnancy was a healthy daughter.

My sixth, seventh & eighth were miscarriages again. All at 12-14 weeks.

I gave up.

8 pregnancies and only one baby.

After a couple of years I decided to try again.

We had our healthy son.

I then thought I'd go for a third child.....but three more miscarriages!

I then got pregnant for the 13th time and had another healthy boy.

During my history, I saw Dr Lesley Regan and Kypros Nicolaides, both eminent in their fields. Both said that I was just unlucky. It was like throwing a dice....and I got a number one every time instead of a number 6!

Thank you everyone for your stories it is a comfort knowing that others have gone through it and have happy endings to share. It's not all dark and gloom!

@Cloudburster90 I have spoken to the doctor and he says it sounds like a threatened miscarriage. Bleeding has stopped, so I need to wait it out and contact EPU in a couple of weeks and request a scan. So, the wait begins!

Please update on your scan today. Keeping everything crossed for you!

I’m currently 26 weeks into my fifth pregnancy but only have one child at home (miscarriages and a still birth). I had bleeding twice in the early weeks of this pregnancy and thought the game was up, but everything is fine so far. I still bleed occasionally but that is due to pressure on the front caused by constipation- sorry, TMI. It is absolutely terrifying but I have decided this will be my last pregnancy whatever the outcome. I cannot go through the emotional turmoil again. It took me 3 years after my son was born to feel
brave enough to try again. The point is, there is absolutely no way of knowing whether any pregnancy will be successful or not and unfortunately, things can go wrong right up until the very last minute. This might not sound helpful but it is the truth and something that should be made really common knowledge for any woman wanting a child. Pregnancy is so tough emotionally and physically and without any guarentees even after the ‘safety’ of reaching 12 weeks. I really hope the pregnancy goes well for you and in future if you decide on more x

I can't thank everyone who has replied enough - it has been such a comfort to read them all.

What a rollercoaster so many of us have been on and I'm in awe at how strong women are tbh! This thing isn't easy is it?!

I had my scan today. Properly expecting the worst but measuring 6W6 with a strong heartbeat which we got to hear and was very emotional.

The YS is v small according to what I've read online and the little graph thing they have which shows where you fall in the range. Sonographer didn't seem concerned about it so I'm going to just focus on that!

They couldn't tell if the bleed was from the hematoma or what but they've put me on progesterone just to be safe and I'll be scanned once a fortnight. I'll update this thread for women who might be in the same position who come across this down the line.

This is really tough @Vanilla90 I hope that the next couple of weeks totally fly by for you so you can get to scan and get some certainty.

The waiting game is CRUEL. Everything crossed for you and let me know how you get on

That's amazing news! Congratulations! I have my fingers crossed for you that everything keeps going well for you and you'll have a beautiful baby! Xx

@Cloudburster90 ah so glad to hear everything is okay! How lovely that you got to hear the heart beat too it must be such a relief. Has the bleeding stopped? X

Nope bleeding is still there and pregnancy symptoms have completely and utterly disappeared so as much as Monday was reassuring, I am now totally losing it with anxiety again!

Pregnancy after loss is HARD

So sorry for you're loss. Also here for hope had a d&c Saturday morning due to mmc at 9 weeks

@Cloudburster90 it is so hard. I feel your pain.
I did a pregnancy test earlier. I couldn't stand living in limbo, constantly analysing my symptoms and Googling. It was negative, so I have definitely miscarried.
I was a week behind you, so doubt mine even had a heartbeat yet, but there's hope for you! They say chances of miscarriage decline once a heartbeat is detected x

Are you on progesterone pessary? I only had one precious loss and was prescribed it ...

It’s so tough. I had a lot of scans and would feel better for a day or so but the anxiety would then come back with avengence. But honestly try not to focus on the symptoms. I was like you at this stage - panicking they had disappeared aa they really did come and go. But by ten weeks they hit like a ton of bricks I was signed off work and on the strongest antiemetic possible.

But sounds like everything is on track a heartbeat is an excellent sign and the rate of mc does drop once one is heard (appreciate that can be of little comfort if like me you heard one and had a later mc). Seems like you are measuring on track too? That was always positive sign for my two healthy babies.

Thinking of you and hoping for your little rainbow 🌈 xx

Symptoms aren’t always reliable. With my current pregnancy once I started bleeding in the early weeks I stopped feeling sick and craved coffee (I go right off it very early on in pregnancy usually which I always used as a reliable sign). I think it is just when you focus so much on how you feel and hope for the tell-tale signs, you can over complicate it. It’s so hard not to worry, but please try and stay positive xx