? baby no3

[JJM13]

We are 39 baby 1 was an easy pregnancy but a traumatic end with breech, pre eclampsia and an emergency section . I’ve recently had baby no2 , i had a rough pregnancy , it was a pregnancy full of anxiety after a MMC i had bad sickness until 22nd and gestational diabetes that was difficult to control . I went into natural labour but was encourages to have another c section because of the rosjs , which i only had because my husband was so scared of having another emergency section.
I was adamant when i was pregnant that i would never ever do this again , husband agrees because of how unwell i was but DD no2 is so perfect, the last 12 weeks have been magical . Am I mad for considering a 3rd baby ? should i just continue to grateful for what we have . My husband is against any more babies and is adamant the family is complete but if i was to conceive he would never want an abortion . any advice ?

Don't just get pregnant. That's not fair on your husband. Trust issues. Why not give yourself and your new baby a chance. Wait a year or so then speak to your husband again. Enjoy what you have ❤️

Agree with @Mog65 just do the job with two for a while, then work out what is best. One more might sound easy, but there are so many considerations, some of them financial - bigger house, bigger car, difficult holidays, and some are practical (I've got 4 and at one point in 3 different schools). I was a 6 years older when I had the last two, and although DC3 wasn't really an issue, I had a 1 in 4 chance of downs, with DC4 & DC5 a 1 in 3 (one did not make it) I was in hospital for weeks before and after, meanwhile 3 young children at home, dad at work, lovely family helping. I would have never aborted, even with the downs thing. But in the long nights in hospital, I did think about it all - about who you owe something to. Your partner, your existing children, your wider family who end up helping, not really the baby that "could exist if you let it happen". I think it is easy to get carried away in the moment. It's hard because we are somewhat wired to do it, but it doesn't mean you should. Good luck with whatever you decide xx