Crying a lot at 28wks- how bad for baby?

[Trespass]

Hi, does anyone know how crying and being upset affects babies? I seem to be on a bit of a rollercoaster at the moment, lived in France for almost 8mths and missing family. Also hate my other half at the moment, he doesn't seem as interested in the baby as I thought he would be, and also starting to worry about delivering etc over here as don't speak much French!! Generally, I'm feeling down in the dumps!! Also got SPD!! Upsets me tho to think I'm distressing my unborn.

don't worry! I think stress isn't good generally as the release of cortisol can affect the baby, but being sad isn't the same thing. Not fun for you but baby should be fine xxx

Hello Trespass, sorry to hear you're so sad.
I don't think it really affects the baby but what about you?? Could no one from your family travel over to be with you for a few weeks? France isn't exactly the end of the world.

I don't know about SPD but maybe some wiser MN will be around soon.

I know it sounds silly, but if you are feeling really down - at the times when you aren't down, try to think really positively. Personally, I think it is good for the baby to learn that there are emotional ups and downs in life. But you need to make an effort to close things off. If you have an arguement with DH, try hard to 'make up' as quickly as you can so that you can have a cuddle and get all those feel good hormones going.

I had a similar situation when expecting DD1 (well, not in France so no language issues). And I am sure I read at the time about how important it is to try to get some feel good too. Find something you enjoy, even if it is looking at a view - do it every day to try and lift your spirits.

BTW, your hormones will be playing havoc with your mood. That is probably why it feels so out of control right now. Being heavily pregnant is not an easy place to be (I'm currently 39 weeks).

The stress that's been shown to affect the baby is severe stress (e.g. death of a close family member) in the first trimester. So there's no reason to suspect your baby's being harmed at all.

You need to watch out for yourself, though -- you are important in your own right and shouldn't spend the rest of your pregnancy sad and stressed.

Sorry for your situation. Mine was slightly different but I was working full pelt at the later bits of my pregnancy (from when I was 6 months to 8) with my daughter - weekends, through the night, big meetings, very stressful on a big transaction and I was pretty unhappy about that too. I read a lot of scaremongery things about how stress and lack of sleep are bad for your baby later in pregnancy. Although it is not ideal, my daughter was fine and a very easy happy baby to boot (and still great as a toddler). So don't let worry add to your plate.

Have you seen the due in July thread? We're all about the 28 week mark and are a very hormonal tearful bunch! Come and join us if you fancy a moan and a whinge - we're very friendly! Or just have a lurk if you want reassurance that you're not alone!

O.m.g thank you all for your comments. Just popped back on before going to hosp for check up, and didn't expect any comments yet. I feel better knowing my little 1 shouldn't suffer. My family do pop over occasionally, takes 7hrs door to door as in North so it's driving or train. My mum has told me to let her know if I'm really down and lonely and she'll be straight over but I know I'd be putting her out, well we'll see. I will try and be positive and my hormones probably aren't helping at the moment! (sometimes find it hard to make up with 'him', I can be quite stubborn!)
Good to hear you've had healthy and happy babies after stress and sadness, and maybe it does do them good!
I will look for the due in July thread, will be nice to have contact with other m.t.b due the same time.
Thanks again

Hi shortshafe, where can I find the due in July thread? x

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/2290/499167
Paste that URL in

To find it manually, go into topics list (at the top of this page) and then antenatal clubs. Then you will see all the months listed.

You can bookmark the thread, and also click on watch this thread, so that later you can click directly to it through the 'theads I am watching'

BTW, your DH might well be suffering a bit too. It's a big change coming, and men are often expected to be supportive but not have any worries themselves about it. If you can, talk about it and explain how you feel. It could just get you both back on the same side....

Good luck with the baby etc!

Thanks PotPourri, I know you're right, I have told him how I feel and he said he'll try and be more supportive but guess I need to put a bit more effort in too.

Hey not long for you to go!! Good luck