Am I in the wrong?

[thepurgebegins]

I need some advice/closure please. I'm 2 months gone and the sickness is unreal. I went to my mums house yesterday and my mum had made a lentil dish which is my absolute favourite I could live of it!! but I said I didn't want to eat it because I don't want to eat it just for me to throw it up. My mum said that's silly, atleast youll get a good taste of it and to eat to my hearts content. My sister in law was also present there ( brothers wife). I threw up about 4 times during the meal but still tried to enjoy my meal until she pipes up and says you're just wasting food it took us a long time to make. My mum said she made it mainly and she didn't know what problem she had. She made a huge fuss about me wasting food.. I felt guilty and just gave my.mum a hug and left before I could finish. Me and SIL normally get along but she has been showing alot of attitude recently and I've been put off as well as my other siblings with her behaviour and rudeness. I just felt bad and since yesterday every time I throw up food I feel shit. She's got a 4 month old and has had bad sickness herself but she obviously didn't care to think. Idk I've been going through it already and have had eating issues before so this is already hard for me.

You're not in the wrong OP. It also sounds like you could be suffering from Hyperemesis. Please go to your GP and get some anti sickness medication asap.

@Tdcp

Thankyou I have been doctors but he's refused to give it. I'm going to ask the midwife next week

Pregnancy sickness support is a brilliant charity who will talk you through what to say so your GP will provide the medication to help you. Your midwife can't prescribe, so contact them and book another GP visit.

I'm sorry you weren't listened to by the GP, often they're very dismissive, and I'm sorry your family isn't supportive either.

https://pregnancysicknesssupport.org.uk/

I’m so sorry you’re so sick and sorry that your family have been so horrible about it! That’s the last thing you need right now and I’d have been so upset had my mum done this to me while I had hyperemesis during pregnancy.

with regards to your dr being dismissive, unless it’s particularly triggering keep a track of your weight. Mine only took me seriously when I told them I’d lost almost a stone from not being able to stomach anything other than lettuce and apples. Don’t let them dismiss you it’s awful.

Please see a different doctor, he shouldn't be refusing to give you anti emetics especially when you're being sick 4 times during a meal! Your midwife might not be able to prescribe them, mine wasn't. It's hard to advocate for yourself when you feel so horrible (speaking from experience) but please stand firm and ask for Metachlopromide or Xonovea.

See a different GP. I personally found the GP more helpful than the midwife who spouted something about at least when you eat the sicknesses stopped and had nothing when I said no it doesn't.
Don't try to force yourself to eat, if a person isn't being helpful it's ok to step away. Pregnancy sickness is horrid enough without having to go against what feels like the best thing to do especially if you are being berated simultaneously for eating and not eating. Do go back for antiemetics.
I ended up in a and E in July. The all day nausea had eased so I tried to go about my normal day despite throwing up everything I ate. I got up in the night to my daughter and I came over dizzy and my legs gave way and I landed in a heap on one ankle and couldn't walk properly for a week. The body will do it's best to compensate but you need fuel and rest to make the most of what you can keep down. Take things easy and talk to someone else about meds.