2nd baby & anxiety at 34 weeks

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34 weeks now with 2nd child, our pregnancy was planned now & feeling totally overwhelmed and anxious about how I'm going to cope. It's all hit me like a ton of bricks. The last few weeks the tiredness and nausea has returned & I feel so exhausted. It's affecting me mentally and I feel very anxious alot of the time. Starting to feel like I'm not cut out for this all over again and everyone around me is going to judge me if I cant cope. I don't know how I'm going to do this. My 1st child is 6. I literally feel like ive forgotten everything and the midwives just have the attitude of "oh she knows what she's doing because it's her 2nd baby". No antenatal groups etc this time round, its felt very isolated.
Husband is being absolutely amazing, he's more relaxed about everything as in supportive and telling me to try and take each day as it comes. Great with our eldest and letting me rest when I can etc.

Hi OP, I'm 32+5 and have similar feelings though not as big an age gap for me, 2.5 years.

Are there any antenatal classes you could tag along to a few before the birth? Or you could try the peanut app to make other local people who are a similar stage of pregnancy to you?
I'm doing a pregnancy pilates class which I find helps from both a physical and mental health perspective as it gives me time and space to connect with the upcoming baby and think about what life with a newborn will be like again.
I'd you can't make a class like that then swimming can be a good alternative

Sorry you're feeling like this OP. I'm glad you have a supportive DH, that's so important. I'm 36 weeks with DC2. DC1 is 3 in December. I can totally relate to the midwife approach of "oh you know what you're doing"...I really don't feel like that at all! Fear of the unknown and fear of other people's judgement can be very anxiety provoking things and pregnancy is a really vulnerable time. I'm trying to remind myself we got through birth and newborn stage with DC1 and we survived! Similar to PP I've been going to a pregnancy yoga class which is very grounding and it's been nice to be around other pregnant women, especially those on second+ baby. I've not done any prenatal classes like nct this time either, but I have looked into baby classes locally that I can take little one to, I found they really helped with my sanity first time round, and it's given me something to look forward to through the visions of sleep deprivation! Wishing you so well OP, you're not alone, you'll be getting lots of solidarity from other anxious mums of 2 to be! x