Telling people

[Nmcl40]

I’m 10 weeks pregnant and have only told family and my manager at the moment. Waiting until the 12 week scan to tell everyone else. My friend knows we had been trying and had asked me today was there any update and I just didn’t feel ready to tell her so I just said ‘hopefully soon’ and changed the subject. It isn’t exactly a lie but I felt guilty. My husband hasn’t told some of his family yet so didnt seem right want to announce to anyone else yet. Have I done the right thing ? Had a decaf coffee and nearly heaved after it was hard to try and hide it but I don’t think she noticed 🤣🤣🤣

When you tell people is completely up to you! We had an early scan at 10 weeks and everything was fine so we told family. We then got a scan at 12 weeks and told everyone else!

Our NHS scan wasn't booked until we would have been 14+1 so we got a private scan for the reassurance before we announced it!

My 12 week scan is nearly 13 weeks. I had a scan there last week at 9 weeks and all was good. That’s why we told family

There isn't a right answer to this, only you and your husband can decide when you want to tell anyone outside your little bubble.

I'm super close to my best friend of 35+ years so she's the first one I told (after hubby of course). That was as soon as I got the BFP.

We told our parents about a week later and swore them to secrecy.

The rest of our immediate families we told around 11 weeks after we got our NIPT results back and everything was low risk. Same with DD1 age 4.

Everyone else was around 13 weeks.

We based it on who we would turn to for support in those early weeks if anything bad had happened. Anyone else, we waited until we had more reassurances that it was going to be OK (as much as you can ever have in pregnancy).

There’s no right or wrong, I told some friends and family early and then had a miscarriage at 11 weeks. I actually found it much easeir to then tell them about the MC,and have their support. I also some friends who have had MCs so talking to them was helpful. It made me very pro telling early, as I think our society still has shame and secrecy around MC, even though it’s so common. Im pregnant again now and also told early around 7-8 weeks. I think people should do what they are comfortable with, but I personally couldn’t not tell a close friend especially if they knew it was on the cards. You just have to think, who would you be happy telling, if you had a loss. And there’s no safe point of pregnancy, 12 weeks isn’t magic!

In my last pregnancy I did really tell anyone until 20 weeks.

Completely a personal decision. I have had two losses and I personally wanted to keep that between me and my husband, although we have subsequently told some close friends. So just have that in mind - hopefully nothing will go wrong but anyone you've told you're expecting, you'll have to tell if something happens. Depends how you deal with things, we are quite private people.

I have no regrets about waiting until 12 weeks to tell family or 20 weeks to tell most people first time round, or this time. But just do whatever you feel comfortable with- don't let anyone pressure you into revealing it!

I kind of like the thought of telling her after my 12 week scan and keeping it a complete surprise. Maybe that’s a bit sneaky but I don’t think she would be annoyed at me telling a white lie. A part of me just wants to keep it a secret from everyone else for a while. I had a 6 week and 9 week scan and everything was ok. I’ve just got bad anxiety at the moment and should focus on the positives