Week 10 and honestly feeling absolutely horrendous

[rainbowbaby2]

I forgot how bad the first trimester is. I'm struggling to enjoy the fact I'm pregnant because I feel so ill. I'm on anti sickness tablets which are helping me not be sick but the nausea seems even worse, I guess because nothings able to come out.
I have a 2 year old who is at nursery 3 days a week but the afternoons/evenings I have with him are so hard. My dp is working lots of hours at the moment and is trying to help as much as he can but there's only so much he can do. We're both self employed so need to take as much work as we can.
Does anyone have any tips to get through?
I don't think it was ever this bad with ds's pregnancy,
Im struggling to even open the fridge and the house is an absolute state. I just can't find any get up and go.

I didn't find anything that helped. The only positive is that week 10 tends to be the worst week for sickness and then it gradually decreases. I used to spend the day trying not to vomit on my toddler's head and then pass out before dinner on the sofa. Best of luck

I'm so sorry - it sucks and it sounds like you're doing what you can.

Having a toddler makes a huge difference - you can't have a sleep on your days off, you have to prep food for toddlers (unlike a first baby, I would make my husband fend for himself as I couldn't face it), you're generally more run down ...

I don't have any real practical advice - can you get a cleaner to do your kitchens and bathrooms while you're feeling so low? Can your husband do mealtimes for the toddler so you can avoid triggers?

Could have written this myself! Mine is also quite gastric and have to keep running to the loo. So quesy in evenings I go to sleep with DS at 7.30!

I'm sure this is the worst week though.

Get an emergency cleaner for the next 2 months
Find a local teenager who wants to earn a bit of money and have them come over after school and stay until dc is in bed. You lie on the sofa and nap/supervise the teenager

Weeks 8-11 were horrific for me in both pregnancies. My sympathies OP. I was on a combination of anti sickness meds, I froze some lucozade in an ice cube tray and sucked on one when I was nauseous. I hope you start feeling better soon.

Bless you. I had the same thing a few years ago and sometimes wonder how I got through it.

But I did and it was absolutely worth it and now I use it as an experience to feel strong.

That probably doesn't help you right now as it feels so bad but I want you to know that you will do it and you will be so proud at the end. Big love to you.

Which meds are you on? You might be better off trying something different, there are several different safe options available so I would have a word with your GP.

My sympathies though, morning sickness is the absolute worst 💐

I just had to be ok with doing nothing until it passed! I got worried that I was getting seriously depressed, and at 10-11 weeks it was at its worst but I'm 15 weeks now and it has passed! I'm full of beans again ha! It's the worst feeling darling, but it will pass! Just keep reminding yourself of that. Mess will still be there tomorrow if you can't get up and sort it now xxx

I'm on ondansetron, it is helping but I still feel awful. My body feels like concrete. I've had my bloods done and my iron must be ok as I haven't heard anything but the exhaustion is just something else isn't it.
I would love to hire a cleaner but in all honesty I think I would just be too embarrassed.
My house has never felt or looked so disgusting. I can barely open my kitchen door without wretching.
My toddler is living off beans on toast and freezer dinners. I'm normally so on it with healthy meals and he normally eats great but I'm worried after this he's going to only want beige foods!
Luckily my mum is able to have ds sometimes but she has a chronic illness so she can't help as much as she'd like and that's the only support we have around us.
I've been kind of in good spirits and I'm on sertraline this time which I think is helping but some days I just feel so defeated. I can't wait to feel a bit more normal and to actually be able to cook a nice meal for the family and be able to walk the dog more often without having to lie down afterwards!!

Oh that is usually one of the more effective meds so I'm sorry it's not helping. Don't worry about the house though! And beans are fine for your toddler.

Even if you're not anaemic it's worth checking your blood results yourself as the Dr won't always mention it if you're just a bit on the low side. Not that Floradix will help at all with the nausea but it might with the exhaustion!

You're making the baby's organs from your own body. It's exhausting.

Re cleaning - can you get a one-off cleaner?

Food - this is only a few months. Could you get dh to pre cut veg bits like cucumber and carrot for him, or do frozen peas etc that are a doddle?

Try Xonvea. Incredible.

@Haroldwilson that's a great idea! Thank you. My brain isn't working at the moment 😂.

I'm 21 weeks, was still being sick 5 or 6 times day until last week when my GP put me on Xonvea. I haven't been sick once since the day I started it. Can't recommend it highly enough. I was the same in my first pregnancy, sick until the day I gave birth so I was expecting another 20 weeks of the same the same this time round and had pretty much resigned myself to it. I get the odd wave of nausea but nothing like I had before.

If he eats stuffed pasta, that's also easy. Boil kettle, two mins in a pan, add cheese (pre grated for ease) less effort than beans on toast and probably healthier and less smelly so less nausea inducing.

Remember as well that toddlers who eat well can just decide not to, suddenly. This might be triggered by a period of beige food but it's just as likely that they might decide one day not to eat anything colourful for no reason!

Oh, @rainbowbaby2 many sympathies. My youngest is nearly 13 and I still remember the horrors of the firsr trimester vividly. I was in hospital on a drip for rehydration. At week 10 I was in hospital both times!!

One thing that helped a tiny bit was ice lollies, but only lemon or lime. I had a huge aversion to strawberry!

Could chuck in some frozen peas too.

@CocoPlum very true! Made me feel better, thank you.

@Haroldwilson great idea about the pasta, I'll give it a go. I think we have some here already!
I have a day off today so I'm slowly feeling the motivation to get the house a bit sorted but at the same time the thought of all the smells is already getting to me. The fact it's even in my head though is such a positive! Dp has been moaning about having to do everything for the last month or so, how does he think I normally manage! They do make me laugh. It's like he thinks a magic fairy comes and does everything. He said 'I'm constantly cleaning this kitchen'. Yes, welcome to my world 🤣.

I know you're joking about the magic fairy, but - don't spend your life doing housework for a man who's perfectly capable of doing it himself.

In late pregnancy and with a newborn he'll also need to step up. And there's no reason why you should do it all anyway.

Good luck!

@Haroldwilson oh don't worry, he does his fair share don't get me wrong. I take the main load because he works more, plus I do a better job lol.
I think how I'm feeling is probably just taking its toll on him too. It's 100% harder on me right now but it must be hard for them to comprehend when they can't see anything/ aren't experiencing any physical symptoms. We had a miscarriage last time too, at 12 weeks so I can imagine he's feeling all sorts of emotions. Doesn't mean he needs to moan about the dishes though 😆.