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Getting nervous about 12-week scan...

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Daniya · 21/04/2008 16:20

Hi All

I don't really have anyone else who I want to talk to about this, as it seems kind of silly, but I know everyone on here is so nice and might be able to give me some wise words to calm my nerves.

Tomorrow is my 12 week scan (officially I'll be 12+2) and I am really nervous about it. Basically I am scared that I have suffered a missed miscarriage, I have had no bleeding or pains but I have heard and read about so many people that have a MMC that I can't help but fear it. We did have a scan at 8+2 so we saw a heartbeat then but now it feels like its coming up to D-Day and tomorrow could be bad news.

I am feeling like this also as for the past 2/3 weeks my pregnancy symptoms seem to have gone - before I had a lack of appetite and nausea at smells but now the only thing I really have is sore breasts (and although they are painful I am clinging onto that pain and grateful for it!)

Has anyone else felt like this before their 12-week scan? I just need some sensible thoughts before tomorrow and of course I will let you know what happens.

Thanks in advance!!

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MrsTittleMouse · 21/04/2008 16:24

It's completely normal, and I was just the same (I had mine a couple of weeks ago and everything was fine ). I think that because hormone levels change at 12 weeks it's very common to start feeling "different" at this stage anyway.
I worried about my first pregnancy too, but that was pre-MN and I didn't know about MMC. That's the only trouble with MN, you do find out about things going wrong with a huge group of other women (compared to your much smaller group of RL friends) so it does seem as though bad things are much more common than they really are.

Pinkali37 · 21/04/2008 16:48

Hi,

I am 10 + 4 and all throughout my pregnancy so far I have been paranoid of a MMC. Like you I have had an early scan 6 + 5 and a 8 + 4 and all was fine but I have my dating scan on wednesday this week and I fear something has happened. Like you I have no reason to think anything apart from a couple of weeks ago my symptoms started to go. My boobs were never that tender but they do not hurt at all anymore. I still have the national grid of blue veins on my chest though (especially nice in some lights) and I have food aversions which is quite unusual for me. I am also very tired. Apparently your hormone levels start to settle down from 8 weeks onwards which is why they generally don't give blood tests to check HCG levels etc.. after this time and it is a scan (1st port of call). If they see a heartbeat at 8wk, there is less than 3% chance of anything going wrong. I am feeling exactly the same as you so don't want to say "don't worry" but just stay strong and breath deeply when you are having your scan as fingers crossed everything will be just fine. Let us know how you get on. xx

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Daniya · 21/04/2008 17:14

Thanks MrsTittleMouse and Pinkali - I'm glad its not just me with these fears, although I still feel a bit silly as I know I can't control it (I think thats where the problem is as I am a bit of a control freak!)

I am tempted to do a pregnancy test tonight which might forewarn me of any bad news but do you think thats a bit much?

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MrsMattie · 21/04/2008 17:18

I feel the same. I felt like this when I was pregnant with my son. Then I had a miscarriage, and am now 7 weeks pregnant and even more anxious. I have had an early scan (all fine), but am petrified that something will be wrong at the 12 week scan. I think it's fairly normal, to be honest.

hattyyellow · 21/04/2008 17:23

I think it's very normal. I had very similar fears in my last pregnancy and do again in this one! I was convinced they would tell me I'd imagined the whole thing!

I'm sure it'll go well and you'll be delighted to see your healthy little bean

BeckyBendyLegs · 21/04/2008 17:29

I had a MMC between DS1 and DS2 and found out at my 12-week scan. I had never heard of that sort of thing happening before so was extremely shocked when it happened. I think it is quite rare. I don't know anyone else who it has happened to. The first thing I said was 'it can't be true, but I still feel pregnant!' They told me that your body still thinks the baby is alive so still gives off all the hormones so feeling better is not a sign of a MMC. I think it is natural to have these fears so you are not being silly at all. When I was pregnant with DS2 I was terrified about going to the 12-week scan after what had happened the previous time. I almost couldn't bare to go through with it but all turned out absolutely fine. I am now pregnant again and only 7 weeks but I imagine I will have the same fears in due course. It is very normal whether it has happened before or not. I think pregnancy is the scariest thing ever! Every day I worry about something!

Aubergenie · 21/04/2008 18:34

Rest assured that what you're feeling is completely normal. As BeckyBendylegs says there's always something to worry about isn't there.

I had a miscarriage last year (preceeded by bleeding), and when I fell pregnant again I was absolutely petrified about going for any of my scans. It's true though that the risk of miscarriage drops significantly once the heartbeat has been seen. But I knew all this, had seen the heartbeat at 9 weeks and still had sleepless nights before the 12 week scan so I can totally sympathise. I've got my 20 week scan in a few weeks and I'm already getting anxious.

Obviously there are no guarantees for any of us, but the chances are that everything will be fine. I really hope it goes well for you and you'll be clutching a picture of your baby bean this time tomorrow!

vicsta · 21/04/2008 19:11

Oh, bless you all. I felt terrible in the week b4 my 12 wk scan, and I have never suffered MC or anything wrong during this pg, yet I was utterly convinced that they wouldn't find anything in there and that I had imagined it all. Now 34wks but I can still remember how anxious I was. Everyone told me it was normal - so it must be super normal for you. I can only imagine a tiny bit of what you are feeling, but you all have my sympathies & very best wishes. Good Luck.

MrsTittleMouse · 21/04/2008 19:16

Actually I'm now 14 weeks and HUGE (second pregnancy = no stomach muscles apparently) and I still wonder if there's really anything in there. Perhaps I'll feel better when I start feeling the baby kick, but I think that these worries are completely normal.

Minniethemoocher · 21/04/2008 19:28

I feel the same, despite have horrid morning (noon and night) sickness I have absolutely no sign of a bump at 11 weeks, 2nd baby too so I thought that I would show earlier I really cant believe that there is anything in there!

Scan next week, just cant wait!!

caramelbunny · 21/04/2008 19:51

I think that worry is very common Daniya. Am 14 weeks tomorrow and had scan 2 weeks ago. I had worked myself into a state worrying about there being something wrong but everything was fine. I cried tears of such relief! Yes, things do go wrong but after getting this far you have good odds of everything being ok at scan. Good luck and congratulations.

Pinkali37 · 22/04/2008 09:10

Let us know how you get on. xxxx

Minniethemoocher - I am 10 + 5 and do not feel pregnant at all. Well feel V tired and have food aversions but my tummy doesn't look or feel any different. This is my first so I know it can take longer i.e. 13/14 weeks but it does make me panic.

Mummywannabe · 22/04/2008 09:39

Completely normal to feel like this. I even did a pregnancy test the day before the scan . When i saw the littleone on the screen i burst into tears!

Good luck and try not to worry

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Daniya · 22/04/2008 10:13

Hi all - we just got back from the hospital after the scan and all is well!!!

We saw the baby on the screen and its so developed its amazing. The sonographer said everything looked good so I am very relieved and a happy bunny!

Thanks for all of your supportive messages which helped me get through the past 24 hours. And good luck to Pinkali, Minniethemoocher, Beckybendylegs and Mrsmattie - I hope to hear good news from you all soon! x

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ObsidianBlackbirdMcNight · 22/04/2008 10:16

Get used to it.....I am feeling paranoia at EVERY stage. Totally normal but it does kind of take over your life. Every time I have a scan/hear the heartbeat/feel strong movements I feel ok for a week then it wears off and the paranoia comes back.....

I said to my OH the other day that i think this is my life from now on...I'm bound to worry about it even more when it's not inside me anymore!

Good news BTW I'll be posting something similar next week - got my 20 week scan on thurs xxx

Pinkali37 · 22/04/2008 10:20

What wonderful news I am so pleased for you. Right, now I can quiz you! Does your tummy feel bigger or can you still not tell ????

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Daniya · 22/04/2008 10:42

Pinkali My tummy is quite big but I think that may still be leftover beer from pre-pregnancy!!

Apart from that (which I'd like to believe is baby) I don't see any noticeable difference in my tummy. Today the size of the baby was 6cm crown to rump so I guess its to small to make a dent - I will let you know when I can start to tell!

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