3 day work trip at 30 weeks pregnant

[Copenhagener]

Hi all,

First pregnancy here.

I’ve been asked to attend a three-day work trip next week (internal team building stuff) in a neighbouring country.

It’s about a 1 hour drive to a rural spa/farm, and will be 3 packed days (8am-10pm) of socialising, late meals, workshops, etc. Everything is a ‘surprise’, so I’m not allowed to know what the evening activity agenda is, or even what’s the menu for the meals.

I don’t have any complications (as far as I know), but I’m quite nervous. I am constantly tired, nauseous, and have very sore ligaments even when working from home, can only walk for short distances, and dealing with a lot of acid reflux, heartburn and gagging when I eat, so hours-long team meals sound potentially problematic.

Do I suck it up and try my best at the event, or say I can’t attend? I’ve only been working there since March, and will be on leave from end of October (normal in my country) so I feel awkward calling out, but no one is acknowledging things may be challenging for me and say it’s an important event that we need to attend.

How about you just don't comment. Miserable negative drone.

Hi all,

Short update. I ended up going on the work trip.

Overall, no disasters, but it wasn’t the best experience.

Dinner was several courses: all of which had non-pregnancy safe food (wild shot rare-cooked game, soft cheeses, pâté).

The team activities were golf (hardly exciting enough to be a secret!) and wine tasting (which I couldn’t join) but no one had considered.

There was a LOT of walking, which was quite frustrating as people were shooting off ahead and I was waddling along behind (luckily with a couple of nice colleagues to keep pace with me) and I ended up with some unpleasant chafing. The days were very long, the timekeeping strict, and I was quite exhausted so couldn’t contribute much.

Also had a few ‘YOU’RE HUGE’ comments, which didn’t fill me with joy, but hey ho, I survived.

Would I do it again? No 😁

I don’t think you should go but you can have a holiday of your own at some point