How to tell my sister I’m pregnant after her tfmr?

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I’ve found out I’m pregnant (not planned, I was on the pill) but my sister had to make the difficult decision to have a tfmr 2 weeks ago.
i am 8 weeks along and I found out when she was considering a tfmr.
Now she has had the termination, I’m just trying tl think of how and when to tell her.
i was going to text her so she doesn’t have to react a certain way for me / she doesn’t have to reply and tell her before the rest of the family are told so it isn’t just a shock to her with the family.
I know there will never be the right time to tell her but I feel like such a bitch but also struggling with all this anxiety about not having the excitement (even though it’s a shock) that me and my boyfriend want to have and just feeling incredibly guilty.
I feel like I can’t only tell my family that I’m pregnant, I’m going to explain to all of them that I was pregnant before my sisters tfmr because I have this horrible feeling they aren’t going to be happy due to what my sister is going through.
any advice?

Oh this is really hard. Congratulations on your pregnancy. You could wait until 12 weeks and then send her a message as you’ve suggested. Just make sure she doesn’t find out from someone else.

Thank-you!
My plan is to make sure she will be the first to know for at least a week.
I think that’s what is making it so hard, normally she would be the first one to know things like this and right now I have no-one I can speak to about it 😩

Agree with waiting until after your 12 week scan and then telling your sister first, by text.

For the rest of your family, if you make a point of saying how far you are when you announce then you won't need to spell out that you were pregnant before your sister's TFMR - they'll be able to work it out for themselves and I'm sure they won't judge you, if that's what you're worried about.