Pregnant and don't want to be

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Recently found out I'm pregnant with number 3, not excited, have so many worries. Will i eventually get my head around it. Has anyone been in the same position before? Thank you

That should be found out unexpectedly pregnant, baby was not planned

You don't have to continue with the pregnancy.

Hi OP, it can be very overwhelming to find out you're pregnant even if you've been TTC for months/ years, never mind if it's unexpected.
Cut yourself a little slack, your hormones will be going crazy at the moment.
Are you with the father? Have you told him?

I've recently found out im pregnant with third. Worried too but going ahead with it. You just make it work :)x

Yes, married. Have 2 children. 6 and 2, finally worked up courage to tell him and he's fine about it. It's me who's so down about it. I just don't think I could go through with a termination- how could I look my children in the eyes knowing I had done that to their sibling. I'm around 5 weeks at the moment. I feel like life was getting back on track and out of the baby stage to be thrown back into it all! We'd manage financially, and we have the room. It's more the coping with 3 children etc I'm worried about and dividing our love and attention even further across 3 of them, and the lifestyle we could give them wouldn't be as good as if we had 2, holidays etc, my head is a mess

if you don’t want to co to ie the pregnancy, you don’t have to. Instead of looking your children in the eyes knowing you “had done that to their sibling” you’d know that you got to spend more time with the two that you have instead of spreading it amongst three children.

I do think we are conditioned to regret having terminations but I know a number of people who are perfectly comfortable with the decision they made and have no guilt.

do what you think is right for you and your family.

Your children won't thank you for spreading yourself thinner than you can cope with or giving them a sibling you regret and resent. It's you who'll bear the burden of another pregnancy and another child - if you want to go ahead with it for you, great, but if you don't want another baby, you don't have to.

If you don’t have to continue with this pregnancy you don’t have to, as others have mentioned it’ll be more beneficial for your other children and yourself to be in a good headspace.

It is normal to have worries, but if you really don’t see having another to be a good idea you don’t have to

I think your anxieties are normal.
But you've got the room, and you've done it twice before, so you know what you're letting yourself in for.

It doesn't sound to me that you want an abortion, and your husband is okay with a third baby.

I wouldn't worry about not having amazing holidays.

You're hormonal and anxious and it sounds like you want to continue with the pregnancy. You have support and it'll be fine.
It might even been amazing.

Yes.
I'm pregnant with my third, due in December and completely freaked out at least for the first three months.
I'm 25 weeks now and each week I'm more and more accepting and have now started to look forward to meeting her.
This is just my experience though, I have a friend who was in the same position and decided not to go through with the pregnancy and that's fine too.

Thank you all, I'm so confused and conflicted. I just need someone to make the decision for me I suppose lol, I'm not working tomorrow so perhaps It'l give me some head space I need to think x