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Lily2188 · 2024-09-10T08:22:45+00:00

Hi here, I just don't know if I'm losing my mind or not... I went for an early scan yesterday (private) and according to my LMP, I should be 8 weeks pregnant now. But the lady said I was more 4-5 weeks pregnant. She was pretty confident that everything looks perfect and healthy, just couldn't see any baby or heartbeat obviously, just a sac. She was not worried at all. But I came home and just looked at my cycle and it doesn't make sense to me.... My LMP started on the 14th July. Last intercourse 1st of August, so technically only could have conceived up to 5th of August. Had positive pregnancy test 17th August. If my calculation are correct I should be minimum 6-7 weeks if counting from LMP date and taking into account conception date. Have I missed something??? I'm going nuts, crying all night, just doesn't add up, and maybe she made a mistake.. I don't understand how she's so confident when I'm 3-4 weeks behind what I'm supposed to be 😰

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Lily2188 · 17/09/2024 09:20

@Boymama87 Oh I'm so sorry to hear that... 😢what did they say if you don't mind me asking?

Yea, I'm not really hopeful myself, I've been having light streaks of blood the last 3 days, my midwife said to keep an eye on it, but I'm gonna call the mat unit today, I just don;t have a good feeling about it all....

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Boymama87 · 17/09/2024 10:03

I’ve not called anyone yet. MC started yday afternoon with light bleeding that has got progressively heavier. Yday morning I felt I had a funny tummy and emptied my bowls 3 times (which is unusual for me) sorry tmi, so I kind of sensed something might happen. Currently bleeding is only as heavy as a period and I would say I feel heavy in that region but I’m not cramping or anything. I guess I need to call them as I’m meant to be rescanned on Thurs but not sure whether that is necessary now.
how are you feeling? I just feel so sad. I knew it was a possibility but you can’t help picturing the future and being secretly excited.

fashionqueen0123 · 17/09/2024 10:06

SErunner · 10/09/2024 10:17

Unfortunately this often happens with false reassurance offered that dates can be wrong. I think you are sadly right to assume this isn't a viable pregnancy based on your dates. I'd request referral to EPU for review, on the assumption this will be a miscarriage. I'm not sure why any healthcare professional would tell you otherwise based on your cycle dates, intercourse and positive test. It might be worth feeding back to the private clinic where you had your scan if you feel able to in the future. I am sorry, early pregnancy and loss is so difficult.

I agree. This happened to a friend of mine. They were basically saying she wasn’t pregnant when she’d had a positive test. It was just assumed she must be a silly women getting her dates wrong. Then of course she had a miscarriage. It makes me so cross.

fashionqueen0123 · 17/09/2024 10:09

MumOver45 · 11/09/2024 11:29

Try to stay positive. I have just been on a hell ride for a week as my consultant wanted me to have a scan at GE before starting Inhibixa. I went for my scan at 8 weeks only to be told and shown that the sac was empty, measured 5-6 weeks with a weak pulsation and that it looked like it would be a miscarriage. I spent a week convincing myself that was it. Went back a week later (yesterday) and there was baby, measuring a few days over at 10 weeks. They still did not explain to me how this was even possible, but the lady scanning did not seem happy with the first lady. How can you miss a 8-9 week fetus? But she did.
It could be lack of skill, a tilted uterus, maybe even fading twin syndrome, I don't know, but I will discuss with with my consultant as I am really not happy about what I went through.
I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you and if you have regnancy symptoms, no pain or bleeding, hold in there and try to stay positive. I'd steer clear of early scans but maybe contact your midwife/GE at the hospital and see if they will see you.

That’s ridiculous! That must have been awful. How can they miss an 8 week baby.

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Lily2188 · 17/09/2024 10:53

@Boymama87 Oh no... have you contacted your gynae emergency number? That's what my midwife told me to do if bleeding gets heavier. You should contact them asap, don't stay like this, cause if it's a miscarriage you don't want it to turn into complications. I've been the same to be honest, hesitating calling, but I think if it's as heavy as a normal period it's a good reason to call now...

I called my GP about my spotting, they gonna be in touch today.

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MumOver45 · 17/09/2024 11:00

fashionqueen0123 · 17/09/2024 10:09

That’s ridiculous! That must have been awful. How can they miss an 8 week baby.

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Yes, agreed. I swore I sore the baby also during the scan, but after what she said, I just gave up hope and was waiting for the inevitable, having been there multiple times. To find a healthy baby measuring 10 weeks just a week later, seems impossible and incomprehenable to me. Nothing was explained as to why either. It was just like, here's good news, goodbye. The more I think about it, it makes me so angry. But then, I also feel blessed that everything is OK. Such a rollercoaster. Some of these scanners are just plain incompetent or inexperienced. They did say they were very short staffed that morning in the waiting room.

I'm just keeping my fingers crossed for the OP and all the other lady's going through this.

Itonlytakesone · 17/09/2024 11:09

SErunner · 10/09/2024 11:06

Sorry OP, I think you're being given bad advice by both these clinics. This is not uncommon, training and capability varies hugely in the private sector. I'd strongly suggest you engage with the NHS at this point and get seen by EPU. Could be wrong but I'd think it highly unlikely you will see a positive outcome with that much of a date discrepancy.

I totally agree with this too. Given the dates last period etc it's not surprising that the pregnancy isn't viable. I think they give false hope sometimes, I suppose they dont want to be the bearer of the news.

However even though it's tough at least if the miscarriages start naturally it means you can try again sooner because it took me months to get my head around it all after my body didn't recognise the fact there wasn't an embryo in the sac (blighted ovum) back in April so cruel to feel all the effects of a pregnancy for 9 weeks including the emotions (it makes you cry a LOT 🙈) I'm only just ready to try again

fashionqueen0123 · 17/09/2024 15:14

MumOver45 · 17/09/2024 11:00

Yes, agreed. I swore I sore the baby also during the scan, but after what she said, I just gave up hope and was waiting for the inevitable, having been there multiple times. To find a healthy baby measuring 10 weeks just a week later, seems impossible and incomprehenable to me. Nothing was explained as to why either. It was just like, here's good news, goodbye. The more I think about it, it makes me so angry. But then, I also feel blessed that everything is OK. Such a rollercoaster. Some of these scanners are just plain incompetent or inexperienced. They did say they were very short staffed that morning in the waiting room.

I'm just keeping my fingers crossed for the OP and all the other lady's going through this.

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Sounds like incompetence. You shouldn’t have had to have gone through such an ordeal! I agree!

Itonlytakesone · 23/09/2024 13:14

@Lily2188
How is it going?

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Lily2188 · 23/09/2024 14:12

@Itonlytakesone I'm doing as good as I can really... I've been spotting for over a week now, not getting heavier and no cramps or anything but not going away either... I contacted my GP, but they said nothing they can do at this stage as there is nothing alarming or dangerous, she said nobody would recommend me to have a scan earlier than planned. So I'm just waiting patiently (frustrated) until my scan next Monday... Thanks for asking 💛

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Lily2188 · 23/09/2024 14:12

@Boymama87 hope you're doing okay too 🙏

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Chellybelle · 23/09/2024 14:17

My friend has very recently gone through similar. Started lightly bleeding so was scanned at the EPAU and dated at 4 weeks when she should have been 8 weeks. She was then scheduled for a scan once a week, there was still no yolk sac visible and she has unfortunately been diagnosed with a blighted ovum.

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Lily2188 · 28/09/2024 10:43

Sad news for me too... The bleed started to get bright red so I called the mat unit and got an emergency scan yesterday and found out it that I likely had a miscarriage at around 4-5 weeks 😔The fetus just stopped growing in my case. So when I had my private scan, I most likely already had my miscarriage and she said "everything looked perfect" ughh... I just knew things didn't add up... They should really listen more, that could have save me a month of anxiety...

At least I'm no longer in limbo... Wishing you all the best ladies, thanks again for your support 💛

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Itonlytakesone · 28/09/2024 12:37

@Lily2188
Uh so frustrating for them to say everything 'looked perfect' clearly not based on your dates. I'm glad you came straight on here and we could prepare you as it's no good to be in that position thinking all is ok when it's not. Least you were prepared given what we all said. It's so hard ☹️hope you're ok and can have a rest before you commence ttc again.
I took 3 months to recover and tried again but unfortunately it's not worked 1st month trying all tests negative but I'll try again

PaperSheet · 28/09/2024 12:49

This is the problem with private scan places. There needs to be better places women can go to check things are developing correctly. I do understand that sometimes women DO get their dates wrong so that could be a reason for measuring small. But equally the scan place should be explaining that it's possible it's not fine and to have a rescan in 2 weeks to check growth. They shouldn't be telling women it's totally fine when there's always a possibility it's not.
There obviously isn't any way to tell if the embryo has stopped growing just by one scan. But either a follow up scan or referral should be done if it doesn't look as expected.

fashionqueen0123 · 28/09/2024 13:58

PaperSheet · 28/09/2024 12:49

This is the problem with private scan places. There needs to be better places women can go to check things are developing correctly. I do understand that sometimes women DO get their dates wrong so that could be a reason for measuring small. But equally the scan place should be explaining that it's possible it's not fine and to have a rescan in 2 weeks to check growth. They shouldn't be telling women it's totally fine when there's always a possibility it's not.
There obviously isn't any way to tell if the embryo has stopped growing just by one scan. But either a follow up scan or referral should be done if it doesn't look as expected.

To be fair the NHS did the same to my friend. They need to trust women’s dates if they’re telling someone they weren’t even pregnant when their test was positive.

SErunner · 28/09/2024 15:14

The issue is less private scan places and more scanning so early unless there is a clinical need eg concern re ectopic. It's just not possible to give such assurance at such an early time point with so much variability in measurements and the fact most miscarriages happen at 6-8 weeks. The NHS is as guilty I think but obviously doesn't do as many as has to be clinically indicated. Although this particular case I think the private scan place need some feedback as with those dates a successful outcome did seem impossible.