pregnancy hormones, mum's comment

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Recently i said to my mum something along the lines of that you are more anxious when you're pregnant, which she then said yes, you do blow things out of proportion when you are pregnant. How would that make you feel?

have you been telling her you are anxious about something. Ie is their a reason for her to think you have been blowing things out of proportion?

Don't understand your concern but your mum's right - is true, so very true!

[hmmm] if you mean what I think you mean, you are illustrating your mum's point!

gah.

I agree with Senora. Sorry

Well it began with il's, but they are renown for being difficult, but i can see i am being more sensitive to their comments etc, and also dh doing some diy which has been a bit of a worry but is now ok as it has been fixed and checked, i didn't want my mum to be too concerned so i said i was a bit concerned but you know what it's like being pregnant and then she said about blowing things out of proportion.

I know i am being more sensitive but just wished other people would be more understanding and sensitive to me. Pil don't do understanding unless they are to benefit from it and dh doesn't realise that by making a comment about his diy - which did sound dangerous even to non pregnant friends can make me anxious

my mum, has found in the past my hormones easy to judge as she was on hrt for ages and only came off it when she finished work at 60 because of hormones and hot flushes. i feel that she will be unsensitive again.

how can i turn pregnancy hormones to my advantage, any ideas pls?

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thank you VP, it does make me feel like i am being completely OTT and tthat no problems exist

I think i may have already made a comment to my mum re her sounding like an old woman when she said she thought someone had stolen her sweetpeas from her allotment, don't think that went down too well
will continue not to be tactful, thank you

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sorry, the sweetpeas were found by my mum, she had mislaid them.

i think pregnancy can be a bit overwhelming sometimes.

i think that by your reaction to what your mum said your hormones do make you more anxious etc. i read into everything people say and now i am preggers again i am a wreck! convinced everyone is out to get me!!

but when i am with my friends and ds i feel fine and generally with my mum and other people, in fact i feel fantastic, it's just with inl's mostly i'd say but my mum does make comments to people which u think, i don't think you should of said that

when i feel anxious i'll just have to remember also how good i feel at times when i'm not too tired!!

i think il have that effect on everyone!! you dont need to be preggers!!

Thanks Bethoi'll stop beating myself up now

Def acknowledge that this is down to hormones and not to anything more and let it go over your head.

My dad made a very "off the cuff" comment when I was pregnant with DD1 and it really got to me. After the birth I suffered awful PND and when I started to get better after 10 months, I realised that all of my insecurities and things ran around this comment.

My sisters PND was also centered on a comment her husband made during pregnancy and she found it impossible to let go.

Of course comments alone will not make you get PND but the last thing you need after giving birth is something negative to focus on and the worry that everytime you say something, people will pass judgement.