Should I bother having a baby “sprinkle” or not

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Had a baby shower with my last baby - and my sister caused a lot of drama and issues (long story not important now) which led me to not enjoy it as much as I wish I had

pregnant again with Gods grace and would just love to do something small - not a full blown shower - and not thrown by my sister this time.
my friends have asked if I want to do something but I don’t know it it’s just being greedy?

a meal would be lovely, afternoon tea or something. Nothing major.
but my other issue is I’d have like 50 people there!! Some of which I wouldn’t necessarily want to invite (in-laws side) but couldn’t get away with not inviting unless I just did 3 separate things.

don’t want any regrets.. just not sure what to do.

Can't you just go out for a meal with your friends or family before your baby arrives and not call it a shower or 'sprinkle'?

Regrets? I don’t mean to belittle your feelings, but this is a party you’re talking about. It’s not a wedding. Or a big birthday.

but I don’t really get baby showers. It’s nice to celebrate with friends, but it’s not a milestone event.

50 people is a big party. I’d rather hold three smaller events and get a chance to spend time with the people there.

but understand why some people prefer a big party. I’d just do what you fancy- it’s not that big a deal

I'm not sure you can call an event with 50 people, nothing major. That is more people than I had at my wedding.

I also dont see the need for baby showers or sprinkles, which is even worse.

Just do this. No being showered in products, no Event Name, just eat food with a few people you like.

50 people is not small OP.

There's nothing wrong with wanting to do something but at least own it instead of making it look like a nothing thing

Please don't call it a sprinkle. That's worse than a shower!

Your friends have asked if you’d like to do something - say yes and go for a lovely meal. Maybe treat yourself to a new dress!

You could maybe do afternoon tea with your mum, MIL and any sisters or SILs separately if you also fancied that. That gives you two lovely days out without inviting 50 people!

I've never heard of a baby sprinkle but I'd assume that having 50 attendees would make it into a baby shower (assuming everyone will bring a gift etc.) so why bother trying to make it low key!

Personally I’d rather wait until the baby arrives and have a big Christening party.

Ok
so 50 is actually small for us. We have a huge family and friends. Had over 1000 people at our wedding (not my choice)
so those of you that don’t understand that we all have varying sizes of families I’m sorry!

my immediate family is bIg - we never do anything “small”

my hubbys immediate is smaller. That’s the difference I suppose

should’ve explained that I’m the first post

Not Christian I’m afraid and also wouldn’t want to subject a baby to a huge party - my in-laws wanted to do this (huge party) when baby arrived last time and we said no because no baby enjoys that.. they would’ve invited hundreds.

You can invite your friends to an afternoon tea without it specifically being assigned as a sprinkle or shower.

Thanks, this is probably the best response! You’re right. Thank you

Can your friends throw you the baby shower, and not invite family members?
It is probably due to your sister ruining your first one that you are feeling like you didn't get the usual positive experience.

Do anything you want, but the word...sprinkle...just no.

Aha I get the big family nightmare, some people have been baffled on here before when I've explained that a "family Christmas" for us is an enormous 100+ people event sometimes and I've had to explain the logistics. With six siblings who all have kids and similarly large broods of aunties, uncles and cousins on both sides, numbers add up quick!

Second doing a few small low key events with the people you want to. A meal with this group of friends, an afternoon tea with your folks and ILs, a movie night with another group of friends. Keep it low key and don't mention the word shower and you'll be reet!

Never heard of 'sprinkle' before! I'm not even having a baby shower, they seem grabby and I find the idea of getting gifts before baby is here very bizarre.

I've never understood the whole baby shower thing (never even heard of a sprinkle but 50 people wouldn't be what I imagined!).
How can anyone celebrate a babys inminent arrival before it has arrived safely? I know someone who had a baby shower several years ago and 2 weeks later her baby was stillborn....maybe that's what ruined it for me.
I didn't have one with my first and won't be having one with my second. I might have a small 'meet the baby' when we're all feeling up to it after they've arrived safe and well but, then again, I might not

I agree with @hopefulnothelpful ! nice meal with close friends then something separate with mum+ MIL etc or close family members of your choice. First baby on the way and I plan on doing something similar, showers seem too stressful

What the fuck is a sprinkle?!

I don't like baby showers and I have never known anyone to have one for a second child.

A Baby Sprinkle???

FFS. Kill me now.

LOL

it was a new word to me too!!

50 people sounds like a deluge!

You do you OP. I personally think they are very tacky but each to their own.

Whatever happened to just having food with friends or an afternoon tea? A baby is only really important to close family and friends, with kindness, most people dont care that you are pregnant, especially for the second time.

I wish you a safe pregnancy and birth.

A baby deluge with 50 guests surely OP! 😂

I’d just do a meal with friends then nobody is going to be offended if not invited. You can always say you’re not bothering as it’s not your first rodeo as you had one last pregnancy. But I didn’t want a baby shower (I’d have hated being the centre of attention and I also think in the CoL crisis at the time I didn’t want people spending cash on something like this - which I personally don’t think is important) so maybe not the best to comment.

Ha both said the same thing. I’m sure many others have too!

See your friends but don’t call it anything like a sprinkle so your family don’t get any ideas. Just call it going out for lunch.

My first was during lockdown so for different reasons I felt like I missed out a bit with my first
Second time I did afternoon tea with 5 closest family and didn't call it a baby shower at all to avoid unnecessary invitations. Got me out of inviting the in laws that way...
I get what you are saying about wanting to do something. It's nice to have a bit of alone time (by that I mean non parenting the first!) to mark the occasion
My advice is do whatever you fancy but don't call it a baby 'do' or anything of the like if you want to keep it small