Meet the Other Phone. Only the apps you allow.

Meet the Other Phone.
Only the apps you allow.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Pregnancy

Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

Pregnant sooner than planned

2 replies

rosielu · 04/09/2024 13:46

Me and my partner are getting married at the end of November (I already have a 7 year old son from previous relationship), we planned to try for a baby after our wedding. I have my 3 day hen party in the South of France in two weeks time, which I was really looking forward to enjoying a drink and partying with my closest friends before getting married and extending our family. I found out a few days ago that I am about 5 weeks pregnant, and I can't lie I feel disappointed as I really didn't want to be pregnant for my exciting plans over the next few months. I took the morning after pill the day after the accident but I must've been ovulating already as it clearly hasn't worked. I know drinking alcohol isn't the be all and end all of everything but I don't know how I'm going to get away with not telling my friends I'm pregnant and not drinking, no judgement please but I have considered getting a termination, I am aware that people really struggle to get pregnant and this seems so selfish, I was just really looking forward to the next few months and hadn't factored in being pregnant, but the more the days go on I don't feel like I can go through with a termination, especially as I actually want a baby, just not quite yet. And I think I would live to regret it just for the sake of being able to drink. How do I get away with not drinking on my hen do? I would be 17 weeks pregnant on my wedding day now which changes a few things too. I guess I just want to hear other people's experiences of being pregnant during their hen and wedding. Sorry if this offends anyone, I just really needed an anonymous place to offload, my partner knows and is supportive and one of my friends knows. I understand how lucky I am to be able to get pregnant but these are just my feelings

OP posts:
Peonies12 · 04/09/2024 13:50

Honestly, you tell them you're pregnant. They'll guess anyway. I don't get the waiting til 12 weeks, I told early and then had a miscarriage and it made it easier to be open with friends and family, and get support. Only you know about whether termination is right for you. My personal worry is that you would do it, then struggling to conceive again, although there's no medical link.

Mrsttcno1 · 04/09/2024 14:03

I was pregnant for my home hen do and my wedding! I was very early for my hen I think I was 8/9 weeks and for various reasons didn’t want to tell everyone, my mum, my sister and my best friend knew (who were all at my hen) and the others I kept secret from I just pretended to drink. “Mimosas” that were just orange juice, “gin” that was just lemonade, “vodka and coke” which was just coke and cocktails which were actually mocktails. Not a single person even noticed I wasn’t drinking, a few of them even text me after I announced my pregnancy telling me not to worry about having drank on my hen do, reassuring me that loads of women do it😂

It’s really a lot easier than you would think to just fake drinking, nobody focuses really on what anyone else is drinking.

Enjoy! X

New posts on this thread. Refresh page