Not sure how I feel about being pregnant

[loopnoot]

I found out that I'm pregnant a few days ago. It wasn't fully planned but not totally unexpected either.

I didn't react how I thought I would - I've felt quite negative since finding out. I'm feeling quite disconnected from the situation and struggle talking about it. It just feels so strange to think this is happening.

I've had some thoughts as to whether I even want this but then I've had a couple of moments of feeling excited and hopeful.

I hate that I feel so gloomy and wanted to see if anyone else felt similarly and whether anyone has any advice. I just worry I can't do this and that I'll be terrible and hate it all.

I think just take as much time as you need, and talk to anyone you need to over the next few days / weeks to help you decide how you want to proceed. It sounds like you have lots of time on your side, so you don't need to rush any decision.

Yes I absolutely felt this way.
Same as you - not entirely planned at the time it happened but not completely unexpected.
I was also very detached to be honest most of the way through my pregnancy.
I found it hard to talk about and would get fed up of people talking about it or asking me questions or even acknowledging that I was pregnant.

Anyway, I had some help from perinatal, they weren’t great but helped me realise that what I was feeling was actually quite common, I spoke to loads of friends and family about it, my partner etc
I felt miserable. Terrified of my nice easy life changing and I felt like I was losing myself

My baby is 4 months old today and whilst it’s tough, my life is far from over and you just adapt.
He’s such a cool little guy. I have plenty of wtf moments still and I’m still winging it everyday, but we all are. Even people who have had multiple babies as each baby is so so different.

It’s still very early days and it’s a massive thing to get your head around even if it’s planned. Be kind to yourself, do things you enjoy and most importantly don’t bottle your feelings up, talk to people and you’ll find a lot of others have felt the same way!

Is it your first pregnancy? It’s often not what you expect. It just happens, it’s nature. I personally found it hard to connect the first time until I saw a scan or felt movements. And only properly once baby was here.

I felt a bit like this in my first pregnancy. It was planned but I was more in panic mode when I got the positive and on realising how much things would change I questioned our decision but I think it was just fear tbh. My lo is now 3 years old and the best thing to happen to us! Now pregnant with baby number two and I think I'm even more nervous 🤣 you'll be absolutely fine but speak with your midwife if the feelings continue 💗