Unplanned 3rd baby

[Treely912]

So I’m in my early thirties, happily married and already have a 5 year old and 2 year old, we’ve just found out we are expecting a third. It’s a complete shock and I feel so overwhelmed I’m not sure how we will cope physically, mentally or financially. We do have the space, we moved last year to a 4 bed house that is half way through being renovated. I feel sad that my children won’t have as much time with me one on one this is my main worry, but I really feel like I couldn’t go through with a termination. My husband feels the same as me but has said the decision is up to me. Any positive advice please 🙏

I know several people in this situation and they have said their third has been a delight and they can’t imagine life without them. They are a more fun, happy and balanced family as a result.
Of course they will say that! Good parents love their children. It doesn’t mean you have to go through with it if your mind isn’t completely made up.
I have three as 2nd and last was twins. Of course I adore them all and would give my life for them. I wouldn’t have chosen to have three though! Everything is harder and more expensive and it negatively impacted my career and finances. I couldn’t afford childcare for three so went to two days a week. Holidays were too hard and expensive. We were always shattered.
Whatever you decide to do is the right thing. Congratulations and wishing you well.

I am in exactly the same boat. I have a DS who is 7 and a DD who is 3. Never planned or had the urge for a third child. Found out yesterday I am pregnant and in complete shock. My husband doesn’t want a third and feels that we should terminate due to finances and also the impact on my other children but has told me it is up to me. My head is telling me the sensible thing to do but my heart is telling me to keep baby. I don’t know what to do as I don’t want to live with the guilt of an abortion but also don’t want my husband to resent me.

‘It’s up to you’ is unfair OP. That leaves a huge emotional decision that affects everyone down to you alone.

You need to weigh up your finances, health, job security, and how this will affect your existing children. It’s not just a matters of the heart question.