How tough I am finding pregnancy

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Currently 33 weeks with my third I have a 3 and 4 year old. I am or was a fit slim and active 32 year old before getting pregnant first trimester had terrible nausea round the clock but continued the gym and Pilates til about 20'weeks then pgp kicked in and it's just got worse and worse I wake my husband most nights in my sleep wincing in pain (this isn't a complaint for him he feels awful for me ) I so badly wanted to keep fit right up until birth and have my best recovery yet ( 2 emc and shit long recoveries)
Support is minimal from family
My husband is great but works away a lot as has his own business
Sleep is none existent I just feel a bit sorry for myself I cannot wait to meet and hold my boy but I am not ashamed to say I hate pregnancy
Each one has got worse and the sad part is I would adore 4 children but I know I cannot put my body or other children through this again
Sorry for the main

Honestly that sounds really shit! Keep moaning here if it helps. Pregnancy can be marvellous but it can just be really awful. I wanted 4 but the 3rd pregnancy kicked my arse and I knew I was done.

I feel you OP - I HATED being pregnant and only got my much wanted 3rd because the second came with a twin. Could not have done it all again.

My mother always said the 3rd baby ruins your body (I am that 3rd baby btw). It was kind of true for me too, may only have been 2 pregnancies but the loose skin from carrying twins to 38 weeks (and being short myself) got me.

You’ll get there, and baby will be worth it. It just sucks right now.

Thanks both @DrJump @CatsandDogs22 did you find it very emotional to actually admit that? I feel I need to come to terms with it now as I know like with labour pains etc you forget how bad it is and it fades then you get pregnant and do it all again. My husband is happy to go for a vasectomy but I also think he will change his mind when baby is here and want one more.

The pelvis pain is honestly crippling I feel so lazy and unlike myself I just hope it disappears very quickly when he is born not going to be fun recovering from a section when I can already barely walk. When I get up for a wee in the night it's like everything is locked it's so painful

Every now and then I have a moment where I really want the 4th and then one of the kids will do something utterly mind boggling and I think "ohh glad we stopped".

It took me a long time to recover from the third pregnancy. I had to take it very very slow. Really rest more than I wanted.

I'm very similar to you right now OP and I feel so DONE. Normally fit and healthy but now my pelvis is falling apart and everything is painful. I burst out crying on my husbands shoulder last night about it after my obstetrician was completely unhelpful. Here I am in the middle of the night awake with my body singing in pain. This is my 2nd but at this stage I'm pretty sure it will be my last. Don't get me wrong, I'm sure this baby will be so worth it, but I am so done with pregnancy.

PGP is awful OP. I've actually been super lucky this time round and hardly had it but last pregnancy it crippled me. Do you have the funds to see someone privately? If so I HIGHLY recommend The Pelvic Partnership who have a list of recommended practitioners who can help. My PGP stuck around after birth last time (GP said it was normal and to come back in 6 months 🙄) and just before that I caved and saw someone privately. Had 2 sessions and totally cured it.

@lastgreat luckily I've been seeing an osteopath and it helps a little for a few days each time bits it's not cheap £70 a time gunna keep going til he's born as she's said it will help my recovery will go after as well if it doesn't disappear on its own I think last time it went after about 3 weeks.

@Mmmmpavlova hugs ! Glad you have a supportive husband. How far on are you? My midwife referred me to physio on nhs went and she just gave me a support band which I already had and crutches which. Can barely use as my 2 year old has no road sense so I have to be able to dart after her or push the pram. I'm booked for a sec at 39 and really wanted to push for 38 but I've read lots of negative effects on baby when no medical reason so just gunna stick it out. I remember with my 2nd I said to midwife how on earth will I get into positions for labour with this pain and she said the pgp will be last thing on my mind once contractions start - she wasn't wrong!

@DrJump it's just so hard to rest as a mum isn't it

I'm coming up to 31 weeks in my second pregnancy and OMG this time is so much harder than my first. I'm waking at 3ish every night due to pain in my hips and tossing and turning for hours. This is my second IVF pregnancy and I feel guilty being ungrateful but after a hideous first 16 weeks with pregnancy sickness I was hoping to catch a break!

So no advice but just solidarity. We're on the home stretch at least...

@muddlingthrou yeah that totally sucks empathise with how much ivf on top must impact your body and mind! I know it still feels so far away though. As much as I don't want a section I feel glad that I will be pregnant for 2 weeks less gestation than when my other babies came

Are your children at nursery / pre school? Are you able to get a bit of a rest? I’d give yourself a break. No one is going to judge you for not going to the gym. Your body needs to conserve energy now for the end. I wouldn’t push through if you are in pain.
(I say this as a pre pregnancy runner who’s had HG and has had to do a lot of mental wrestling around resting/feeling lazy when vomiting my guts up).