Keeping it a secret

[Katie1611]

Has anyone ever kept their pregnancy a secret? Even from close friends and family? I'm currently 15+1 and we still haven't told anyone it's been quite nice just us two knowing but the further on I get the harder it is to tell people lol. Might just wait to see how long it takes them to realise I'm putting on some lbs 😂

@Katie1611 im 23w and only direct family know parents/brothers. Been living in baggy jackets and tops , say time is running out now though

I swore I was going to do this and everyone said it was impractical and sadly half way through the second trimester it was impossible - it was during the pandemic so I got away with it for longer than I would have done otherwise.

For me - it was because it had been a long journey to baby and I’d found pregnancy announcements heartbreaking and I didn’t want to be reasponsible for causing anyone upset. I realised after a while it was kinder to let people know in advance so they had time to process it than suddenly shove a bump in their face.

I told my line manager at 4 weeks when I found as per my contract.
My in laws at 13 weeks, bil at 16 weeks. My family at 17 weeks and the office at 18 weeks. A couple knew already because I had to asked for adjustments due to my job
We went into lockdown at 18 weeks which is why I told my colleagues as I knew I wouldn't see them again until after I returned from mat leave. Had I known we were going into lockdown I would have held of telling my family until after the 20 week scan
We will do the same in any pregnancy, work early colleagues only when the only sensible answer is I'm pregnant and all other explanations sound like bullshit. In-laws after a successful dating scan and my family as late as possible. I've just had a miscarriage and my line manager and two colleagues I work closely with knew as I had a lot of sick leave due to hyperemesis

First time round we kept it a secret from everyone until about 15 weeks as it was a new relationship and I couldn't be bothered to listen to any negative judgemental comment's.

This time round (same father, we're now married), I told my mum and best friend aimed 6 weeks but won't tell anyone else until at least 12 weeks.

I kept my 4th pregnancy to myself, found out myself at about 5 weeks didn't tell a soul until I decided to tell my husband at around 12 weeks as I had to go for a scan. Think scan came out at around 13weeks. It was great, just soaking it in myself. 🩷🩵

We thought we'd keep it a secret but we're bursting to tell people, barely made it to 8 weeks! It was really nice once I did, everyone was so nice, even at work etc. I've had a difficult pregnancy so the general support and extra attention was very helpful.