Anyone expecting third with two toddlers?

[Makingdo]

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I've just had my third, ds is 4 on sun, dd1 is 27mths and dd2 7wks, it's a bit mad at times, but ime life is so chaotic that the 3rd has fitted in nicely!

So far lots of walks to wear them out/get out of the house/keep the baby asleep!

Off to bed, so will attempt to post more coherantly tomorrow.

fyi, So far, the morning sickness was worse than now she is here if that makes sense You will be fine, even if you feel you are staggering through the day, don't we all at times? Just don't nit-pick, relax a little. Or to (mis-)quote Hecate the other day, closse the door, sit back wioth a coffee and magazine, and don't get up unless there is blood seeping under the door. Or to that effect!

I will, Makingdo. I have a soon to be three year old and and 18 month old and I'm due number three early November.

DD1 is due next month, DS2 is nearly 3 and DS1 is 5. I know these are a bit older than yours, but I am also concerned especially as I need to take DS1 to school and back each day (which is quite a hike) and DS2 is currently in childcare 2 days a week and when he turns 3 in a couple of months will be in pre-school 3 days a week. Getting out of the house in the morning is already a challenge not to be running late all the time.

Then there are the activities and play dates and birthday parties and appointments that they will all need to go to. I am worried about no having any routine for DD1 which might result in not sleeping through for a long time. I am terrible when I am sleep deprived and with the other two I always had a strong routine and despite exclusively breastfeeding they slept through at 4mo.

People reassure me that no. 3 just has to fit in and that it will work out but ...

I had 3 under 4 which for some reason made people gasp in horror.

Never was quite sure why DS1 having reached his 4th b/day would have made it so much better

I found that DS2 just really did slot into routine. We had activities from nursery school to toddler group and baby gym and he just came along and was fine.

Really it was OK. My gaps are 2 yrs and 22 mo. I transported them in sling and buggy and buggy board. Recall pushing them back from cm once with DD in buggy, DS2 in sling and DS1 on buggyboard, he was a big 4yo then and I dread to think what I must have looked like!

Actually that is a good practical suggestion - I kept my childcare going for a couple of days a week (my lovely cm was also cheap enough to make this practical) which gave me a bit of time with DS2 and thus time for me when he slept.

I had three under three. Survived it (just). Bought a posh pram cheap (15 quid) with a toddler seat and put the 2.10 year old in the pram with the baby between his legs and the 16 month old in the toddler seat. Worked for us. Was the hardest thing ever. Spent the first year (when number three was 6 months old) working full time (post maternity), the second year full time at home, now about to start 3 days a week to get some balance. Now at 5, 3 and 2 it's a breeze, honestly (although I was pregnant in 02 03 04 and 05 and have no intention of being so again). The kids are a riot. I range from being asked whether they are twins (seems not to matter whether it is oldest two or youngest two, or triplets...). I wish you the very best of luck!

Hi I am expecting 4th boy in July with a 3 yr, 2 yr and 1 yr old already.

The third wasn't so bad I found the shock of going from one to two the worst when my 3rd came along it was just about adjusting the routine and organising things wherever I could to make it easier for myself.

Dh works away a lot so quite often away before they are up and back after they have gone to bed so it does sometimes feel like a single parent life but I do try and get a break at weekends, I go swimming for an hour...bliss...an hour of not having to think about anything.

I am too expecting #3 in August, DD1 will have just turned 4 and DD2 will be 21 months.

It is a very scary thought, I'm not quite sure how I am going to manage. DD1 is starting school in September so I think this will make my life a bit easier, although doing the school run with a 4 year old, 21 month old and newborn doesn't sound like fun to me !!

Everything will work out just fine - it always does
And Congratulations