Anyone confused about second pregnancy?

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We decided to have a second child and now I am in early stages of my pregnancy. I am very confused and scared at the same time. The amount of work load in future is making me crazy.
Anyone else had second thoughts? How did you cope with it?

I think it's natural to feel this way to some degree. I'm 8 weeks with my second, first is 4 and I'm already worrying about childcare and money, work etc. I look at the pile of washing and can't imagine it doubling, sleepless nights again.....
We have a good lifestyle with one child and I do worry baby number 2 won't get the same.
I'm so grateful to be pregnant at 41 though and the positive thoughts far outweigh any worries I have.

I had to go to a&e for a broken bone and had to leave my little one - my mum did the bedtime routine and she slept in a bed without me for the first time ever. Broke my actual heart and now I’ve been whispering to the baby that it better be a quick labour come March because I don’t want to be away too long !

I'm 33 weeks with second IVF baby (DD is 2 in a few weeks). The 'omg how are we going to cope' thoughts come and go, as does the guilt about how DD will cope with the change. I think just accepting that it could be really tough at the start whilst everyone adjusts, but that it'll be ok and soon everyone will settle into a new normal helps. I'm also just really grateful we've been able to create our family.

Me too - currently in the middle of first trimester tiredness and feeling a bit overwhelmed at the thought of 7 more months of pregnancy, followed by the baby stage. My DS was very very hard work for about 18 months, so the thought of doing all that again with a 3yo is quite daunting.

I'm trying to just focus on the good bits of each day and to rest where I can. Also, our kids will be different people by the time our new little ones are born, in a different phase with different challenges. At least having done it once before we know that everything is a phase that will pass!

Hi. I know I might sound insane, but can anyone see a faint white line? Or is just me?

Thank you it helps. I think I have my good and bad days.

You are really brave to do this all again.🫡

That's must be so hard. I can't even imagine that.
Hope you feel better soon and closer to your baby.

That's true. I am doing this to give my daughter a sibling or a family of her own. It's good they have someone after us.

Yes, but just so scared how it will be the second time.
Thank you for the support and I hope coming trimesters are easy for you.

Are you late on your periods? If yes, I suggest please try again after 2 3 days

My little one is currently cuddled up in my arms after she fell asleep on the sofa unexpectedly! I’m soaking up these sleepy snuggles whilst feeling a bit sorry for my broken toe!

Hoping baby 2 is enjoying the peace and quiet - just counting the days till my 12 week scan so I can see them again.

Ive been so incredibly lucky with my little one - she’s literally the best little person and makes parenting so easily . I’ve never met such a happy little soul- she radiates joy Everyone tells me that it’s not normal how easy I’ve had it and that I can’t expect it to be so easy the second time round but I’m crossing my fingers that my parenting plays some small part in how easy it all is- if it’s it’s purely nature and it’s not like this again , it’ll be a steep learning curve!!!

Had most of the worrying when deciding if we would have baby 2.

8 weeks now, still nervous how things will be but decision is made now, and I'm feeling more positive

Omgosh yes this was me - I'm 15 weeks now. First 8/9 weeks I had hugely mixed feelings, lots of regret and wishing we'd waited longer. We didn't wait because it took 18 months to conceive our DS, well it only took 1 month this time and that was a real shock. At around 10 weeks I started getting a bump which really helped with the bonding I think and now I'm sooo excited and feel as excited as I did first time but with less anxiety because I've done it before!

@IMBCRound2 oh you’re in for a shock if you get even a normally-difficult baby 😂😂😂😂 my DD was not an easy baby, so I am bracing myself 😂

I have two and it's wonderful ❤️

I truly hope your second one is an easy baby too. Hang in there
xoxo❤

yes I understand. I have my good and bad days so always in dilemma.

That's the only part we feel easy because we have done it earlier. Experience does build up confidence. Hope this second time journey is smoother for you😊

same here. My DD also was a restless baby and I really hope I get some relief this time. Fingers crossed for us✌

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haha - I know!! I don’t even know how to potty train or deal with a tantrum because she just announced that she would be too old for those things once she turned two and just stopped using nappies or having a wobbles? Round two could be a shocker!

Yes, I’m 21 weeks and worry about it from time to time. Im finding all the symptoms much worse this time around, and if it coincides with our toddler playing up I sometimes feel very sorry for myself! I got really upset when we had to tell our toddler that we were expecting, but he was really excited.

im terrified about never getting a break again, lack of sleep, never being able to go out child free again, money, etc etc. I think it’s just normal and we just will get through it somehow. It should hopefully get easier as they get older x

@Peonyyyy I'm 34 weeks and just started sorting out baby clothes from storage. And omg, looking at things my DD wore as a newborn has really made it hit home just how fleeting the baby stage is and how quickly they grow up. Of course there will be a lack of sleep, but in the grand scheme of things, its going to be such a short phase of life (even if it does feel like its never going to end at the time).