Naturally conceived 12 months after IVF baby

[Lifeunexpected25]

I never thought I’d find myself in the situation of being accidentally pregnant!
It took 2 rounds of IVF for my DS and both my husband and I had issues that made us conceiving naturally seem almost impossible. But the week before my DS first birthday I had felt so sick and nothing would satisfy my appetite which made me think it was worth doing a test. Despite these symptoms which reminded me of my previous pregnancy, I really wasn’t expecting a BFP, yet there it was. My brain couldn’t understand what I was seeing and I thought the cheap test must be faulty. Did a clear blue straight after (it was the last test from those ivf days) and it said 3+!
I’ve had such bad nausea ever since, it’s hard to think about the reality of possibly having 2 under 2.
Yesterday I felt so much better in terms of nausea but now have the flu from my DS and husband. And of course today, still feeling all gross from the flu, I’m now worried the loss of pregnancy symptoms means this pregnancy isn’t viable (with my son I felt sick up to 16 weeks). I know every pregnancy is different but it would be so cruel to get this amazing gift only to have it taken away. I feel like I’m still on the infertility rollercoaster.
Planning to get a private scan in a week or so hoping all will be well. Currently about 7 weeks by NHS standards.

Happened to me when eldest was 2 years. Biggest shock ever. Take time to digest it x

Just thought I’d share this in regards to your concern of 2 under 2. There’s 13 months between my brother and I, and we are so close now. I know it was full on for my parents when we were little, but I’m really glad of the close age gap tbh, as it always felt like we had things in common and experienced life’s milestones together. And my mum now says she was glad all the nappy stages and sleepless nights were more concentrated as well!

My two are close together deliberately. It's full on and the first year was hard (during lockdown especially) when you have a toddler and a newborn but they are best friends now (6 and 5) entertain themselves, interested in doing the same things. Can get away with wearing each others clothes and getting the nappy years over was glorious.

My sister started again with a 6 year gap and the second time was a big shock, she's gained the weight she lost which is effecting her confidence and self esteem, the kids have nothing in common, older child struggled with not being and only (dispite begging for a sibling)

We definitely planned for a second child just not this soon.
If this pregnancy turns out the way we want then I’m really excited to hopefully have them have a nice bond and like you say, get that nappy stage over sooner.
It’s just a big mental adjustment because we thought we’d be going down the ivf route again and my maternity leave only ended 3 months ago. We would have ideally wanted to be more financially stable (we got married this year) but ultimately wouldn’t change it for the world.
My previous pregnancy wasn’t the easiest a
so I have concerns about how will this will go but also super excited to be able to surprise friends and family with the news.
The sooner I have scan confirmation, the better!

You're fine my lovely!! Congratulations!! Wow so you've got a big old dose of the flu, a lively one year old, and now this surprise on top. Not surprising at all you don't know which way is up right now. That's very natural so go easy on yourself.

Take care and what wonderful news!

Congratulations!!!
My first baby was IVF and my partner has severely low sperm in every parameter they said there's very little chance of natural conception without icsi ivf.
When my son was 2 years 3 months I fell pregnant . We were trying though! So not a "shock" as such as I knew things fertility related are never definite (unless there's no eggs or sperm or womb etc).
I'm just over 20 weeks with a little girl and my boy will just be 3 when she's due.

I know it's a shock to you now but such a gift!
In regards to symptoms try not to worry as they do fluctuate a lot in those early days. Xx

It's not uncommon esp if Endometriosis is a factor as that goes quiescent during pregnancy

I had exactly the same happen to me and ended up with 2 DC 21 months apart…7.5 years after my youngest was born, I fell pregnant again and I’m now 12 weeks with baby number 3.

No IVF experience - but I have a 15m age gap with 2 of my DC & they're so close they're like twins. Hard for the first 6 months but now they're the easiest as they entertain one another

Congrats. We're in a not dissimilar boat. 7 years of infertility struggles with no natural conceptions, 3 yo DD via IVF, multiple failed IVF cycles since, decided to move forwards as a family of 3 earlier this year only to conceive naturally. I miscarried unfortunately but conceived naturally again immediately and am now 10 weeks with all looking good. I think the reality is fertility is just so complex and there is so little understood of it, even by the leading experts. Wishing you well in the weeks ahead :)

Currently in a similar situation, our 22mo son was IVF after years of trying naturally and I am 20 weeks pregnant with a naturally conceived second baby! It was such a surprise when it happened, we expected to go back to the clinic at the end of this year but obviously delighted. It's taken a while for it to feel real though and it still doesn't really

@SErunner @Babyenroute Congratulations!
I had heard so many stories of this sort of thing happening to friends of friends but it just seemed so unlikely I didn’t want to indulge the fantasy.

Little update. We decided not to wait to get a scan and booked in for one today. Saw the little bean right away and the heart flickering. Measuring 8+2. It really put my mind at ease and made it feel real for the first time.