40 yo just found out I’m pregnant. Anxiety from previous experiences. What help can I source?

[Alexandra84]

Hello,
So I’m a mum to two already, and just found out I’m pregnant with no3.
Unfortunately, after birth of no2, myself and husband found out we are carriers of a medical condition that has been passed to little one.
Our worlds were turned upside down when this happened, and he was extremely ill in hospital when born. It’s taken year to get over this.
A hospital admission last year while pregnant (lost to miscarriage) and seeing so many unwell small children was just agonising. I think it distorted our perspectives, and I found myself convinced our child would also become unwell/medical needs etc.
I desperately want another sibling for our two, hence ttc, but it’s fair to say that due to our past experience, myself and DH are terrified.
Who can I turn to to ask for support, advice? What other scans can we request, blood tests etc to help ensure pregnancy is as healthy as possible? W Evan source some things privately if needs be.
Im not sure how to make it through the next 9 months without driving myself crazy.
Im also very worried that as I’m now 40, I’ve added extra uncertainties into the mix.
Thanks.

I mean it really depends on what the condition you're a carrier for,but I'd think you need to talk to someone about whether it can be identified by screening bloods etc now. Would you continue the pregnancy if baby has the condition?

I'm sorry OP, that sounds rough. I'm not sure on what conditions ect but the ARC (antenatal results choices) are amazing, you could start by giving them a ring.

To clarify… I know of tests I can do which relate specifically to our genetic condition (Can’t figure out how to add to my original post). This can be determined.
But is there anything else that if offered that will help us rule out other worries.
Also, is there any support with the mental health issue of these issues. Are there services available? Thanks for any feedback.

I think this is a question to ask from the midwife. We don't know what is your condition so we won't be able to answer, but NIPT screening might help with the common ones, if it is not that common then hopefully it can be identified by Chorionic villus sampling or Amniocentesis.