AIBU -

[Aisah]

I am 28/29 weeks pregnant with second child

I am massively fed up. DH hurt his arm, likely sprained or pulled a muscle. He has refused to do anything about it other than to go get it massaged. Tonight after weeks of complaining, he annouces he thinks he needs to go see the doctor.

i lost my patience. This i partly because he hasnt been looking after himself. He hasnt taken his vitamins for example in the last 3 months which i buy. I havent been well duirng my pregnancy so he is not eating as well either but i cant look after my first child and then me and then be expected to mother him as well. He is a grown man!

I am upset because I told him he is probably low on iron or vitamin d weeks ago but he just doesnt listen to me. All he does is complain he is tired and his arm hurts while i work ridiculous hours and deal with my multitude of pregnancy issues.

Tonights arguement was also fuelled by him turning to me and saying ' you havent even asked me if i need a rub or massage'

My response was get lost, i am 28 weeks pregnant and i dont ask you to rub my feet (i gave up asking because he kept sighing or complaining he was tired)

Am i being unreasonable to think a grown man of 40 years should be able to look after himself? How am i going to cope with a 4 year and a new born if he can get his act together?

He shouldn’t be asking you for a massage but why are you even concerning yourself with him? His choice to not take vitamins or eat well. I hope your child is eating well at least. I don’t see how vitamins have anything to do with a sore arm. Just leave him to sort himself out, and focus on looking after yourself

I know what you mean OP, it's frustrating when they complain about getting tired etc and aren't even taking basic steps to look after themselves.

I'm 27 weeks with baby number 2 and relationship is deffo strained with my OH as we navigate the challenges of work, parenting number 1 and pregnancy.
He probably doesn't need a doctor about his arm and could self refer to physio?