Please talk me down feeling so anxious after this test

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OK I know this was stupid. Honestly I do. But I am pregnant after years of hell and infertility and ivf.

I am 6 weeks and had been feeling a bit anxious so did a test this evening and got the result below which looks really strong and good.
Because of that good result I then did a cb digital and it only came up 2-3 weeks which is what it gave me a few weeks ago. (I've known since very early because it's an ivf pregnancy)

Please reassure me. I know I should step away from the tests.

That looks like a really good and strong line. The digital ones are 2 weeks behind as they are meant to track from ovulation so 2-3 is good. A lot of people never get the 3+ reading, so I wouldn't worry. Try to step away from the tests as they won't tell you anything at all if you are not progressing. All the signs look really really positive so far so try to busy yourself with other things until you can get a scan. It's really really tough, I know...but right now is just about trusting your body to do what it can. Keeping my fingers crossed for you that all goes well.

Oh the weeks indicators They are so awful. I never got 3+ even though a hcg test the next day showed levels of 18,000 or so which is heaps higher than the threshold for 3+ that clear blue publish. After 2 years of miscarriages that stupid test threw me into such a state. I know exactly how you must be feeling right now but I'm here to tell you those tests are just the biggest waste of money going. I can't find it now but I remember an article on baby centre ( I think) that explained why those tests are so innacurate. It was to do with the massive variety of hcg levels in a viable pregnancy. I hope you can put it to the back of your mind.

Forgot to mention that said 2-3 weeker is now 4 months old!

Thank you so much. I'm just so very anxious. We've waited so long and spent so much money (It's not all about the money I just mean we don't have unlimited pot) and we feel so lucky but these next few weeks until the scan feel like torture

It's utter hell, I totally get that. Being honest the anxiety didn't really go away for me until she was born. Take it 1 milestone at a time. All the best to you.

I get you. I drove myself bonkers comparing lines. Please step away from the tests! Don’t do anymore!

I never got a “dye stealer”, a super positive line and my digitals never got beyond 2-3. I didn’t even get a positive test till I was 15dpo then they started getting lighter over the next few days.

I’m currently laying in bed with the outcome of those tests who won’t go to sleep because she’s excited about her new toy train. Oh and she’s 5 years old now. So clearly the tests meant nothing!

That line is excellent! Be reassured by that.

Congratulations!

Also- have a look about the “hook effect”.

It might be the hook effect.

Also, with an ivf pregnancy I think it’s just hard to stay sane in the early weeks. I’m currently pregnant from ivf and honestly I was a little mad about tests in those early weeks. At one point I was even stressing that it said 3+ too soon and the lines were too dark, started worrying that maybe I was producing too much HCG and had a sleepless few nights googling high HCG!! Honestly you can’t win! I think it’s just natural to worry after struggling to conceive and then getting that BFP.

Try to stop testing and accept that these next few weeks will be hard but just take each day as it comes. I’ve got through these early months by having a scan every two weeks which has helped manage my anxiety levels. I’m now 15 weeks and feeling a lot calmer. Good luck, and congratulations!!

Please don’t worry about it. Last month I got a 3+ weeks on CB after a weekend of intense pain but no bleeding so felt positive. However the exact same day I got my HcG checked and it has gone from 1500 to 1000 and this is way below the threshold for 3+ weeks. I then started bleeding the next day.
These tests are awful, I don’t agree with them and they’ve been discontinued in a lot of countries. Everything is looking great for you!

Oh lovely I totally understand. I’m 8 weeks pregnant with my 4th ivf transfer (others didn’t work and miscarried) so am feeling really worried all the time. I’m actually waiting to speak to someone within my ivf clinic about some counselling because I’m starting to think I’m making my own nausea symptoms up & they’re not real. I mean, I know they are real but I keep wondering if I’m making them worse by being worried. Such a head fuck. Do you get counselling with your ivf package? Maybe you could ask?
anyway, a few things that have started to help me this last week, that you could try are:
journaling
meditation
yoga
extra scans
accupuncture
making plans
eating well
talking to partner

ps . No more testing, they’re unreliable at the stage in pregnancy you’re at and cause too many problems.

i really hope you get some reassurance from this thread. Your not alone during this, we all feel you xx

I'm not sure if this message will be a hugely comforting read but I hope it is!

With my beautiful, happy bouncing IVF girl, I never got 3+ weeks (despite my blood HCG being really high as she started as part of twins!)

With my very sad IVF loss I got 3+ fairly early on.

I was very much like you with the testing, and spent weeks agonising over lines. In the end it made little difference to the actual outcome.

I remember my first test at 4DP5DT in the evening, getting my first positive with my daughter. I was obviously elated.
Expected it to be darker the next morning so did one again.
Negative.
I don't need to explain how I felt that entire day. The evenings test? A darker positive.. turns out I'm just crappy at hydrating in the day, but drink tons overnight. So my positives were evening based.

All this is to say that whatever that test says, whatever the symptoms are... nothing can really indicate what's going on in there.

They say the wait to hear how your embryos are is hard, but the TWW is harder. Then the wait until first scan harder still and the wait until the 12 week one is damn near impossible.

It's so hard and it's such a whirlwind but all I can say is that for now you've got a cracking positive test there and you're pregnant. Beyond that fact, they really do tell you nothing!

Wishing you all the very best after such a tough journey. X

This is a great response and has definitely helped me, thank you x

Just wanted to update (because I know when I was googling I hated non updated threads) that we went for a scan today and should have been 8 weeks. Baby measured perfectly at 8+2 and all looked good but sadly there was no heartbeat.

They must have just died today.

Will never know if not seeing a 3+ test was an indicator or not. But last night I did a clear blue and it was an extremely strong dye stealer and I had strong symptoms up until this morning.

Will never know.

My advice is don't even go near those tests. I never will buy one again.

Oh my gosh I'm so sorry. Wishing you strength on your journey x

CB tests are from conception x

I’m so sorry for your loss, look after yourself 💐

Oh I'm so sorry to hear this xx sending love and prayers to you xx

I'm so sorry for your loss, so heartbreaking 💔 I hope you get the support you need during this time x