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Advice on who the father could be?

19 replies

KeenMoose · 14/08/2024 09:12

I am quite anxious as I am pregnant and there is a possibility of two potential fathers. Please no judgement but I am hoping to seek some opinions as to which is more likely as I need to know and do the right thing from here.

Sex with person 1: 6,7,8,10 July unprotected
Sex with person 2: 12th July two times unprotected but definitely pulled out prior both times

Is there a chance it could be person 2?

Cycle details:
LMP 26 June
Predicted fertile days according to app: 5-11th July with predicted ovulation on the 9th. Cycles are usually pretty regular 28 days.
First positive pregnancy test 18 July - quite faint followed each day with darker lines. Positive 1-2 weeks on digital test 19 July. Solid line by 21 July.
Scan showed EDD 2 April 2025

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Ohhawtdang · 14/08/2024 09:13

I think most likely person one but let’s be honest, those dates are way too tight to be sure. The right thing to do is to be honest with both and seek a DNA test when baby is born, it is only fair and right for all.

User79853257976 · 14/08/2024 09:15

Too close to call.

napody · 14/08/2024 09:15

Yeah there's a chance. From what you've said person 1 is much more likely but when I was TTC I eventually started using ovulation sticks and my fertile days were later than apps predicted for my cycle. It was a long time ago but I think it's called a short luteal phase?? Unlikely if he pulled out, but still possible.

BeerForMyHorses · 14/08/2024 09:16

Far too close to call. Anyone would be guessing. You need a dna test and to be honest with both potential fathers.

Kiwi23 · 14/08/2024 12:23

I would say 1 but them dates are that close there is still a chance unfortunately your not going to know for sure unless you get a dna test once baby arrives

DaisyChain505 · 14/08/2024 12:28

There’s no telling but my advice would be just to be honest.

if you lie and try to hide things you will just be eaten up with anxiety.

lay out the truth to both potential fathers and get a DNA done asap.

DownWhichOfLate · 14/08/2024 12:57

Could be either. Were you trying to conceive? That’s a lot of unprotected sex during your fertile period!

YaWeeFurryBastard · 14/08/2024 13:05

Have you posted this before? It’s overwhelmingly likely it’s man 1s baby. Person 2 pulled out which whilst it doesn’t eliminate pregnancy, significantly reduces it, plus it’s unusual to get a positive 6 days after conception and if you do it’s very very faint and again unlikely it would show on a weeks digital at 7 days past conception, mine was negative on a digital until 11 days past conception.

Only way to be 100% is to get a DNA test, but if person 2 is your new partner I think you’re going to be disappointed and it’s not his.

PeanutCat1 · 14/08/2024 14:05

Extremely likely to be person 1 as all the dates line up and I think it's very unlikely you would've had a positive test on the 18th if you conceived on the 12th.

As dates are so close together it really is impossible to say with any certainty as there is a small possibility it could be person 2 although extremely unlikely in my opinion. X

Diamondglintsonsnow · 14/08/2024 14:07

Likely to be person 1, in these circumstances the best thing to do is be honest in the long run your child and the father and yourself will all be better for it

sadabouti · 14/08/2024 14:11

You can't guess. DNA test and honesty with two men is required. Imagine the horror of assuming it's man 1, telling him but not man 2, and it turning out in 15 years time that you were wrong. That would be far worse than the difficulty of honesty today.

sirensong · 14/08/2024 14:19

OP, you have put up multiple versions of this thread seemingly hoping for an emphatic consensus/ different replies compared to previous threads. You must do DNA testing to be fair to whoever the father is. It is the only way to know for sure.

Joleyjojo · 14/08/2024 19:20

obviously I am unaware of your circumstances. But if one of them are aware you can do a DNA test from 9 weeks pregnant. It is costly around £800 and it is totally safe. You provide a blood test and the male a cheek swab, you get the answer in around 7 days and are 99% accurate. It may give you peace of mind and options. It is called a prenatal DNA test.
I don’t always agree honesty is the best policy As we don’t know your circumstances maybe being honest could lead to dangerous circumstances , we don’t know. If one of them you know would understand and consent to the mouth swab this will elevate a lot of stress for you and the baby. I believe some companies do payment plans. I hope your ok x

figgyandpig · 14/08/2024 19:38

Joleyjojo · 14/08/2024 19:20

obviously I am unaware of your circumstances. But if one of them are aware you can do a DNA test from 9 weeks pregnant. It is costly around £800 and it is totally safe. You provide a blood test and the male a cheek swab, you get the answer in around 7 days and are 99% accurate. It may give you peace of mind and options. It is called a prenatal DNA test.
I don’t always agree honesty is the best policy As we don’t know your circumstances maybe being honest could lead to dangerous circumstances , we don’t know. If one of them you know would understand and consent to the mouth swab this will elevate a lot of stress for you and the baby. I believe some companies do payment plans. I hope your ok x

Edited

This is great advice and so compassionate. It’s easy for people to be righteous until they are in a difficult situation.

Mummapenguin20 · 14/08/2024 19:40

To close to tell just be honest with both

DustyOwl · 14/08/2024 19:47

And just when I’m about to walk away from Mumsnet a thread comes along and restores my faith. Some very empathetic, balanced answers. Good luck OP.

WutheringMights · 14/08/2024 20:01

@KeenMoose as per my response on your Monday thread.

Poppalina37 · 14/08/2024 20:55

I would say person 1, as it's highly unlikely to receive a positive result until 10 days after conception.

Obviously a DNA test would confirm but I had a friend who had a ten day window ( she slept with both guys once) an early scan showed the baby measuring ten days smaller... but by 12 weeks the baby had caught up to dates.

She tested positive 10 days after x I remember it as we googled loads of times at about early pregnancy.

The DNA test did reveal that the first guy was the baby's dad.. and they look alike too xx

Lucybe1990 · 08/05/2025 17:47

Please I really need some advice because I feel I'm going crazy. My last period was the 6th-10th Feb (this was 25day cycle and usually I'm 27-30days) I had sex with A on the 12th Feb and sex with B on the 22nd feb. I am pregnant and my midwife said due date 13th Nov(obviously going from my last period) had a scan and I'm measuring at 12 weeks tomorrow (9th may) and that im due 21st nov .Would anyone share Thier opinion on who the father is please. I need some reassurance. Thank you.

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