Severe anxiety

[Ttcpph]

4w+6, pregnant after mmc 2 years ago, ashermans/uterine scarring and this pregnancy is an ivf baby.

i am riddled with anxiety and second guessing every twinge. Constant pit in my stomach. Hardly sleeping... what can I do to calm myself before my scan? I have one booked for 6w+5 but that's nearly 2 weeks away. Found out I was pregnant 5 days ago and filled with anxiety since then.

is the anxiety a premonition and it means something will go wrong?

everyone says "trust your gut" but how do I know what's anxiety and what's actually serious?

also convincing myself I have ectopic shoulder pain but surely that wouldn't appear this early on? From what I've read, that tends to happen after a rupturing and is very severe, whereas mine is small sharp that come and go. I.e had a couple of shoulder twinges on Monday, nothing yesterday but started again today. Does seem to have disappeared again now tho.

on progesterone so concerned I'll have a miscarriage and not know about it.

also taking prednisone- I think this, progesterone and lack of sleep could be making the anxiety worse, but I had a relatively good sleep last night but still anxious today.

i am driving myself mad, googling stuff, stressing.... any help or advice? So worried

Hey OP, sending love and positive vibes! I'm in a similar situation - 4w+2 pregnant and I've had 3 miscarriages with no other babies... It's really really hard, not sure how to make it any easier! But don't stress about feeling anxious, that is 100% normal and is not a "sign" of anything, it's just natural when you've had a shitty time before. Can you do some nice things to help you take your mind off the pregnancy until the scan? I've been finding going for walks/swimming helpful as it's low intensity, but good mindfulness and I'm sure the exercise is helping me sleep better. I'm taking progesterone too and was thinking the exact same thing - I won't know if I've miscarried until the scan because it stops you bleeding. Just one of life's hard things, I think. I took the pregnancy test 4 days before my period was due (ie 3w+3) and not getting a scan until 7w+3 so it's literally 4 whole weeks of waiting! Virtually impossible to do so, but I'm just trying not to think about it too much. Somehow my husband doesn't seem to struggle with that (he's really busy with work), but I'm not so good at it! Anyway, we're both in the same boat, so I hear you :D xx

@Cosmos24 Thanks so much for replying, it's good to know I'm not alone. I'm so sorry for your losses, life is so unfair isn't it. Sending positive vibes your way, and hopefully this little one is your rainbow 🌈

@Ttcpph Hi op. Just wanted to hop on and share some support. I’m currently 8 weeks pregnant with an ivf baby. I have a boy who is almost 7, conceived naturally.
last year we transferred our first embryo & it ended in mmc, we found out at the scan.
im also very very anxious & was absolutely shitting myself at the 6w+4 scan but all was fine and we saw the baby. I had zero symptoms, I mean absolutely nothing & this made everything a whole lot worse. I too had a funny twinge in my shoulder & still do but I know the baby is where it needs to be.
I also worry about not miscarrying properly because of the progesterone, I think because we are so Intune with our bodies it’s hard to not be in control sometimes. I started to get some nausea on waves (mainly when I’m hungry) last week but that’s it.
ive heard prednesone causes bad sleep, maybe try finding ways to relax? Meditation, breathing exercises (there’s a great one by Andrew huberman on YouTube) reading a good book, going for a walk and listening to a podcast, yoga, meeting friends, making plans. I’ve found taking time away from my phone googling has helped.
have you had your hcg bloods done? I got 1 set through my ivf package & then paid for two more £70 each time. This really reassured me. I’ve also booked another private scan at 9 weeks £75.
its such a hard time in the first trimester, especially for us. Pregnancy after loss is extremely tough & pairing it with ivf is just on another level.
good luck with your scan, just surrender to everything, take your supplements, eat well, drink lots of water. That’s all we can do xxx

So sorry you're going through this and hoping everything is perfect at your early scan.

I don't really have any advice as I am feeling very much the same. It's taken 4 years to fall pregnant with my second and I'm now 7+2.
I was filled with anxiety from first testing positive, overthinking the tiniest little things. I had an early scan at 6+1 - all good, heartbeat etc.
The very next day the anxiety was back and I'm now counting down to the next scan in 6 days time where I'm convinced something will be wrong.

Even if all is OK I've got a feeling I'm going to have 40 weeks of this extreme anxiety to be honest.

I'm 41, I'm already anticipating being high risk for every test etc, overthinking every negative outcome. It sucks . I was so laid back with my first.

I think once you've seen a heartbeat on the scan then the chance of miscarriage significantly drops, so fingers crossed everyone will be alright. I know talking to friends who have successful pregnancies after miscarriages that they said they relaxed a lot once they could feel the baby moving, but obviously that's not for a long time yet!