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Absolutely Terrified

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WildAquaPoet · 13/08/2024 14:02

I'm currently 11 weeks pregnant, not planned, but I know my cycle very well, know my fertile days each month and am usually very careful, but knew I wasn't being careful that month, so of course I knew there was a possibility of getting pregnant but didn't think it would really happen that quick as I'm 39! But thought it wouldn't be the end of the world if it did happen, I've been married for 20 years, financially stable etc.

Well all it took was that one time of being careless and now I'm 11 weeks pregnant and now that reality has hit i feel absolutely terrified about everything!

I'm worried about my depression and anxiety coming back, I'm worried about my back problems getting worse or causing problems during c-section (already had two), I'm worried about our family dynamics being changed for the worse! I have two amazing children, 11 and 7, and everything seems perfect at the moment, and now I worry about everything being turned upside down!

As well as all of this and a million other things to worry about, I am absolutely terrified that something is going to be wrong because of my age and all of the things that my baby is more at risk of because of my age.

Yes, I know I should have thought about all of this before, and should have been more careful but now the worries are coming thick and fast and I can't think of much else at the moment!

I have my first scan next week and I'm hoping that everything is OK and it puts my mind rest, but anyone can give me any positive experiences similar to mine please let me know!

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sirensong · 13/08/2024 14:38

Risks are elevated from late 30s on for various but it is still FAR MORE likely NOT to have a problem at birth. You are already past the main miscarriage zone, which means chromosomal problem likelihood has significantly dipped.

I have no doubt that your children will adore the new baby and life will become unimaginable without them.

WildAquaPoet · 14/08/2024 15:43

sirensong · 13/08/2024 14:38

Risks are elevated from late 30s on for various but it is still FAR MORE likely NOT to have a problem at birth. You are already past the main miscarriage zone, which means chromosomal problem likelihood has significantly dipped.

I have no doubt that your children will adore the new baby and life will become unimaginable without them.

Thanks for your reply and kind words, I'm sure if I was thinking straight I would be saying the same things to other women, but my fears and worries have really taken over at the moment!

Not helping that only my husband and mom know at the moment and they are both absolutely over the moon and don't seem to be worried about any of the potential risks! Of course they might just be being positive for my sake, but sometimes i think it helps to be realistic.

Fingers crossed for my scan next week.

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Poppalina37 · 14/08/2024 21:02

Hey I delivered a beautiful healthy baby at 42 xx

I'm also 80kg xx overweight xx but had nothing wrong with me xx no gestational diabetes nothing xx

Good Luck xx

It'll be magical xx 😘

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